Advertisement -- Learn more about ads on this site.

    NORCALCAT   51,393
50,000-59,999 SparkPoints
Another meeting and a thought...

Saturday, October 12, 2013

I used to be able to talk to men without being an idiot. Now, I am noticing that I cannot look men in the eyes and I stumble upon my words.

I am working with a different male teacher this year and I am having a hard time looking at him and talking to him. Someone has mentioned that this is because I have become conditioned to expect to be yelled at by men. I feel as though what I have to say is crap and does not matter.

This really hurts - I used to be able to talk to I am scared of them?
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

5BADDOGS 10/26/2013 11:40AM

    Hang in there... You can rebuild your self-confidence - as I am learning from personal experience - but it takes time. Be patient with yourself, and as others here suggested, just keep practicing. And just like with all the healthy eating and exercise advice given here on SP, don't beat yourself up if you aren't perfectly comfortable and chatty every time you converse with men. It will get easier the more you try.

People feel most comfortable talking about themselves - so I always try to ask questions, when I'm struggling to make convo.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BOBINVA 10/12/2013 7:59PM

    The only thing that heals this trust issue is time.

Report Inappropriate Comment
CATLADY52 10/12/2013 6:38PM

    emoticon It can be rough at times. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
BEATLETOT 10/12/2013 5:29PM

    A group related to the one you're going to says the first step is acknowledging the that you recognize this, you can work to change it, especially with someone safe--maybe a nice, friendly, male co-worker would be a good start. I'm always thinking of you, Cathy.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SUEPERWOMAN 10/12/2013 4:41PM


It is tough to be that uncomfortable. My hope is that you don't get it into your head that now you are scared. You can force yourself to move through the uncomfortableness,
and talk even if it's not "perfect".

As someone who is always in my own head about things, I advise you not to overthink this one.

It's not easy though, I know!! Love, Ginger

Report Inappropriate Comment
ROCKPORT9 10/12/2013 2:51PM

    I am so sorry you have to go through this. It will get better. You are reaching out and not allowing things to be as they were. Sending hugs, Laurel emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

Log in to post a comment.

Other Entries by NORCALCAT