Thursday, October 10, 2013
As October progresses, I'm struggling with my goals and rewards for the month. I have always had a difficult time in devising a reward strategy for myself. I feel guilty giving myself treats / spending money on myself. I know this is not healthy. I hear my mother's voice inside my head telling me that I'm "selfish."
So, I decided that I'm going to use the same behavioral modification tool that we are using with my oldest child (4 years old) on myself. Basically, it's the color system (red, yellow, and green) on a calendar page. A "treat" is identified at the beginning of the week for the weekend. The "treat" isn't necessarily food-related, either. A red day means no treat, period. Otherwise, 4 greens are needed to get the treat. (Eventually, the number will change -- but starting something new, it's good to start with half the week as green.)
When it comes to my daughter, I'm brilliant at identifying appropriate treats -- based on weekly plans, etc. However, I can't seem to do this for myself.
Does anyone else struggle with this? Or struggled with this in the past? If so, how do (or did) you overcome the stumbling block?
Thanks, in advance, for your advice.