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Thoughts on the biggest looser

Thursday, October 10, 2013

I use to watch the "Biggest Loser" show. The first season that it was on I was in awe of it. Finally someone was going to attack and show us how to overcome obesity. What a joke that was. The shows you the most obese people and how to break them down to over come their physical self. More often than not obesity although shows on the outward appearance it is more mental than physical. The show doesn't attack that issue. The show does not show you how to deal with what I call the real world. The show in fact is just another reality show that has a prize at the end of it. However, conceptually it has merit it just lacks in application. Contestants are given a once in a lifetime opportunity to take a break from stress and life. They are given the best nutritionist, doctors and trainers. Day in and day out they only have to live the process of loosing weight and stay in the game. However, that is not the real world.

Two years ago we were living away from family. We were in an apartment in New Orleans for my husband's job. I am a family based person, there is nothing that I wouldn't do for my family but I was alone there. This is where the concept of the " biggest loser" plays into my process. I didnt have small children to tend to. However, I probably had more stress than most. And no support system to deal with that stress. Since I spent most of my time alone then as I do now I borrowed the shows concept adding one thing that they don't offer. Yes I took the time while alone and started slowly to figure out how to loose two hundred pounds, but I also took steps like keeping a stress journal, I had to learn how to determine if i was eating because i was hungry or because I was stressed. You can do just as much damage eating 5000 healthier calories as you can with 700 bad calories if you dont understand why you are eating. Also the show does't show you how to attack the years of emotional damage done to you because you are obese. It assumes that we all start on a level playing feel and we don't. My personal struggles emotionally might not seem like much to you but they are my crippling struggles. Having done so many programs in the past i had to determine why I couldn't have success and that answer was because i never addressed the emotional side of me. I had to figure how to forgive all that had been done and said. Then i had to figure out how to forgive myself for allowing this to go on for so long. I will never forget all that has occurred over the years but I am not a slave to that any longer.

On the show they show you these extremely obese people loosing 10, 12, 14 pounds or more a week, I believed for a long time if i wasnt loosing huge amounts of weight a week then i was failing even if i lost a pound. That is so far from the truth. When i started this my motto was " 1 pound 1 pain" this is still my motto to this day. And believe me I push hard. Jullian's big thing is push till you puke then push some more. There are times when I push so hard my body couldn't puke if it wanted to but you know what that gets me " nothing". If your body wants to puke or it is screaming at you from every nerve ending and joint, it is saying stop now. It will do you no good if you push so hard that you are in the bed for the next week after it. There is a difference in structured pain that encourages you to move on to the next step and immobilizing pain that says tomorrow you will regret this.

The " biggest loser " is a competition that is all it is. It is a money making show that uses the most vulnerable people we have. Of course they will loose weight because they are being broken down on a physical level in my opinion. I am not one of those people that responds well to criticism, I take it very personal and it becomes a defeating moment. I firmly believe that no one has the right to say anything to me that I wouldn't say to myself and although I am very tough on me there is a limit as to what i will say to myself now. Why because of the change i made in my life. For me the grand prize isnt in the weight loss it is in the forgiveness that has brought a certain amount of peace to me.

I might be wrong about the show but I see here on spark people with those who are on the Biggest looser challenge they are having great success. These people on Spark people receive encouragement and support on how to deal with life. They compete in healthy challenges and reap weight loss from it. No one is throwing them off the team because they gain. No one is throwing a weigh in by drinking a gallon of water so they get some reward. No these participants are just living life the best they can. See now that would a show I would definitely watch and cheer for !!!

Don't let a money making show lead you down the wrong path. The only way to have success in the journey to loose weight is to find a way that works for you. There is no right or wrong there is you. After loosing a 116 pounds I can say if i there was a quicker easier way I would know about it. In the end it takes dedication , determination and a commitment to yourself to maintain a healthy life .
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PATIENTHAND 10/15/2013 8:01PM

    thank you... I have not watched the show, I dont like the reality shows, because they are mostly mean and celebrate backstabbing and selfishness and betrayal.

But what you have to say has merit, even separate from the show.

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KAREN608 10/12/2013 12:30AM

    In my town there is a little old lady, who is thin, and watches TBL show, and everytime she saw me she'd mention it, how she exercises every day and how it was my time to lose weight since they could do it. . . oh that got old! She moved to a different town for cheaper rent. Yay.
I agree the show is not the right thing to be showing people how to lose weight. Fast fixes aren't good.

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WETPTARMIGAN 10/10/2013 12:44PM

    I am in massive agreement with you. I don't like the way the competition throws people away by kicking them out. They still need to lose weight; they still need help. I don't like the effect the show has on many of its watchers, who come to believe that the only way they can improve their weight/health is for some external force like being on a reality show to take over their lives.

That's why I like this site. It is the anti-biggestloser. People working together, supporting each other, doing what works best for them with only self-imposed deadlines and a million second chances. There is only one winner on the tv show. There are many thousands of winners here.

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HAZELFRUIT 10/10/2013 11:58AM

    Thank you Darlene!

I really liked that show at first. For one thing, how often do you see un-skinny people on your TV? But the meanness turned me off. You give people this great opportunity, and when they display the same problems that made them unhealthy, you send them home? Makes no sense.

The support here on SparkPeople is priceless. It's made a huge difference to me.
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BUBBLEGUM_FAIRY 10/10/2013 10:47AM

    You make a lot of a good points! Especially when you mentioned that it doesn't really tell you how to deal with it in the real world. When they have the challenge of going home back to their normal lives, I've seen that some of of them really struggle. The show in a way does put a lot of focus on the scale and weight loss aspect itself. I really do enjoy spark! I also like the fact that we focus on Non scale victories in our journey, and by not putting on all our prime focus on what the scale says, it reminds us what the true reward is on this journey: Better health, and feeling good about ourselves.

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LOSTLIME 10/10/2013 8:55AM

    Nice blog! emoticon emoticon emoticon on your weight loss! The best thing is to find out what works for you and stick to it! Have a good weekend!

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WHYNOTJ1 10/10/2013 7:51AM

    Well said. I especially agree about listening to one's body when it says stop.

I dislike the mean-spirited competitiveness of reality shows in general, and especially this one. To me, these people are all winners for taking such a big risk and putting themselves out in front of the world to try to find a way to lose the weight. They should be supporting and helping each other (like we do on SP) instead of trying to beat arbitrary and unhealthy weekly loss amounts achieved through unsafe practices.

I also agree with you about the money-making show. People get sucked into watching it so they can sit on their sofa and feel that at least they aren't that bad. I get furious with the diet "industry" and the crazy messages and advertisements people are bombarded with. At my heaviest, I realized that mobility scooters and high-tech diabetes monitors were actually being marketed as a "lifestyle" choice. That was a choice I decided against.

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