Thursday, October 10, 2013
I use to watch the "Biggest Loser" show. The first season that it was on I was in awe of it. Finally someone was going to attack and show us how to overcome obesity. What a joke that was. The shows you the most obese people and how to break them down to over come their physical self. More often than not obesity although shows on the outward appearance it is more mental than physical. The show doesn't attack that issue. The show does not show you how to deal with what I call the real world. The show in fact is just another reality show that has a prize at the end of it. However, conceptually it has merit it just lacks in application. Contestants are given a once in a lifetime opportunity to take a break from stress and life. They are given the best nutritionist, doctors and trainers. Day in and day out they only have to live the process of loosing weight and stay in the game. However, that is not the real world.
Two years ago we were living away from family. We were in an apartment in New Orleans for my husband's job. I am a family based person, there is nothing that I wouldn't do for my family but I was alone there. This is where the concept of the " biggest loser" plays into my process. I didnt have small children to tend to. However, I probably had more stress than most. And no support system to deal with that stress. Since I spent most of my time alone then as I do now I borrowed the shows concept adding one thing that they don't offer. Yes I took the time while alone and started slowly to figure out how to loose two hundred pounds, but I also took steps like keeping a stress journal, I had to learn how to determine if i was eating because i was hungry or because I was stressed. You can do just as much damage eating 5000 healthier calories as you can with 700 bad calories if you dont understand why you are eating. Also the show does't show you how to attack the years of emotional damage done to you because you are obese. It assumes that we all start on a level playing feel and we don't. My personal struggles emotionally might not seem like much to you but they are my crippling struggles. Having done so many programs in the past i had to determine why I couldn't have success and that answer was because i never addressed the emotional side of me. I had to figure how to forgive all that had been done and said. Then i had to figure out how to forgive myself for allowing this to go on for so long. I will never forget all that has occurred over the years but I am not a slave to that any longer.
On the show they show you these extremely obese people loosing 10, 12, 14 pounds or more a week, I believed for a long time if i wasnt loosing huge amounts of weight a week then i was failing even if i lost a pound. That is so far from the truth. When i started this my motto was " 1 pound 1 pain" this is still my motto to this day. And believe me I push hard. Jullian's big thing is push till you puke then push some more. There are times when I push so hard my body couldn't puke if it wanted to but you know what that gets me " nothing". If your body wants to puke or it is screaming at you from every nerve ending and joint, it is saying stop now. It will do you no good if you push so hard that you are in the bed for the next week after it. There is a difference in structured pain that encourages you to move on to the next step and immobilizing pain that says tomorrow you will regret this.
The " biggest loser " is a competition that is all it is. It is a money making show that uses the most vulnerable people we have. Of course they will loose weight because they are being broken down on a physical level in my opinion. I am not one of those people that responds well to criticism, I take it very personal and it becomes a defeating moment. I firmly believe that no one has the right to say anything to me that I wouldn't say to myself and although I am very tough on me there is a limit as to what i will say to myself now. Why because of the change i made in my life. For me the grand prize isnt in the weight loss it is in the forgiveness that has brought a certain amount of peace to me.
I might be wrong about the show but I see here on spark people with those who are on the Biggest looser challenge they are having great success. These people on Spark people receive encouragement and support on how to deal with life. They compete in healthy challenges and reap weight loss from it. No one is throwing them off the team because they gain. No one is throwing a weigh in by drinking a gallon of water so they get some reward. No these participants are just living life the best they can. See now that would a show I would definitely watch and cheer for !!!
Don't let a money making show lead you down the wrong path. The only way to have success in the journey to loose weight is to find a way that works for you. There is no right or wrong there is you. After loosing a 116 pounds I can say if i there was a quicker easier way I would know about it. In the end it takes dedication , determination and a commitment to yourself to maintain a healthy life .