Wednesday, October 09, 2013
It has been a long time. Rather than just make small talk, I will cut right down to what has been going on since I last blogged in April.
A lot of drama and presently, a lot of uncomfortable calm.
I filed for divorce in March and things were amicable for a while until we began dating other people, then things got ugly. Lots of shouting matches, lots of crying, anger, threats, during which time my current boyfriend and I grew apart and there was also a lot of drama with that towards the end of the summer. I seriously did not think we would make it, but we did and we are, miraculously, still together and trying to make it work as best as we can. The upside to the end-of-summer drama is that it changed me (maybe for better and for worse), my perspective, and yet, somehow, some way, it made our communication open up. We are communicating better than we ever have before, but I also feel like a different, more independent person (it may have had something to do with spending the month of August living my life like it was my last month on Earth).
Our divorce was finalized on the 19th of September. A few weeks before it was finalized, I moved out and in with three people I met on Craigslist into an apartment we got for ourselves. The apartment is huge and it's also one of the nicest apartments I've lived in (save for the one I lived in in San Diego). It's also super cheap for this area. I'm renting out the living room until I can get my debt and my finances under control which is happening a lot faster than I expeced (yay!).
I have also learned to manage my money a lot better.
I got a second job (in addition to my job at the psychotherapy clinic) at a Jewish synagogue two miles from my current place.
I quit smoking in June and have not picked up a cigarette since then.
I re-found my motivation to go back to school and really focus on it. While the cheapness of renting a living room is nice, I can't rent a living room forever. ;-)
I also started therapy for the first time in my life. It has actually been a tremendous help within my transition from an unhappily married wife to a relatively normal 27 year old. It has allowed me to find the strength to ditch my sh*tty, abusive family and understand that any of the dependencies I had before are now things I no longer need.
I've dropped 15 pounds or so just from working so much. inadvertently controlling my portions, and walking twelve miles every week (two miles to the temple, two miles home, three times a week).
That's about it.
My life is not perfect, but it's much better . . . much better than I could have ever imagined.