There was a loud crackling noise in the sky as the thunder rolled through the clouds. I threw my head back, admiring the storm above. The sky was dark with flashes of white sparking throughout with each bolt of lightening following behind the thunder. It was beautiful. After the storm, you will find peace. I smiled as the sound boomed through the quiet neighborhood. And in that moment I felt at one with the storm as the pain inside of me slowly began to seep out.
Nicole Sobon, No Place Like Home
Feelings of happiness can depend on many things. First, we need to feel safe and secure and have our physical needs met. After this, we can focus on our emotions and feelings. Happiness and joy arrive when we feel a sense of love, purpose and belonging.
As a cancer fighter, stress anxiety can sneak up on me and put a damper on my level of happiness. I may have good days and bad days as I physically and emotionally deal with treatment, side effects, recovery and anxiety about my future.
Sometimes the anxiety and worry about cancer takes over my thoughts I understand this is normal. However, instead of hanging on to the negative thoughts, I try to practice this. Every day I set aside 10-15 minutes, sometimes I call it my worry time, and focus on my main concerns. I write my worries down in a journal or talk about them with someone else. I recognize them as things I can't control and then move on to more positive thoughts. This puts anxiety in its place and still allows me time to get the negative thoughts out of my mind.
My goal is to have more positive, happy days instead of days filled with sadness and negative emotions. Here are a few ideas I have found that help to guide me:
Focus on the positive. Think about the good things that are happening at the moment.
Spend quality time with the ones I love. Go for a walk with my partner, make a phone call and laugh with a friend, go to a movie, or arrange a lunch outing to get my mind back on the things that matter most. Really just simple things!
Reflect on who I am and what makes me unique and special? These thoughts have helped me with my sense of purpose and belonging.
I remain present in each moment. I take time to feel, see, hear and touch the world around me.
Everyone has moments of uncertainty, this makes us human. However, finding my own sense of happiness can make a liberating difference.
I really hope that those of you who read this can see that I am writing this as a cancer fighter! And that is not surprising...but looking back I realize that this is exactly what I practiced when I was losing weight and carried me to my goal and finally 100+ weeks of successful maintenance.....
It really works! And over the years I have had successes and failures, but boy has it instilled in me the tools that I now need to fight with! Take a minute today and identify what happiness is to you...what it means and take the first step!!!!!!! Then no matter if you are facing any obstacle whether a disease, weight loss issues,partner loss, or emotional and financial issues you will have to tools to get yourself back on track!