Monday, October 07, 2013
In the era of social media, it's easier to see certain thoughts that come through frequently. I know some of us may have lost a few friends during the last election, I know I did, but now there are different thoughts coming through frequently by certain people.
"Look at this cupcake, I'm so spoiled", "Ooh, we're eating out again! Yay!", "Look at the yummy stuff hubby brought home!", "Pie, Donuts, and Cookies, oh my".
I cringe every time I see these thoughts and know that I shouldn't say anything because these friends are just not ready to hear the way to health. They're happy gaining more and more weight, even when they post about how the kids say "you're fat, but I still love you mommy". I'd love to just embrace these people and tell them there's a better way and you can still have some treats to go along with it, just not every day or every meal.
I'm not sure if it's denial or if they're trying to counteract the posts I put on my page about why GMO's are bad for us or how to eat healthy without being deprived.
I can't push being fit toward those people, they won't listen anyhow, they're not ready. All I can do is share things to my page and hope that when they're ready, they'll read a few of the articles and maybe even ask me how. I can not call them out on their weight, they already know they're fat. No one really doesn't know they're fat, if they're like me, they're simply in denial about the long term issues that weight can cause.
If I push, it will just take longer for them to realize that they can be happy and slimmer too. It's like when you don't like the date your child brings home (or worse yet the one you never meet) and you immediately tell them why they're wrong for your child. They hold on to that relationship longer than they would if you just go along with it and are there for them when it's over.
I'm just glad that in Minnesota certain things are really fads. You don't see a Krispy Kreme donut shop around anymore, they were lined up around the block for the first few months, but then they just couldn't stand up to the grocery store donut after the fad (funny thing is that one of them is now a health food store now). There is a cupcake shop or two that are really popular right now, but I'll bet that it'll only hold up for a year or two until the fad dies down. Sweets are fun for a while, but we do fads around here. The only good bakery that holds up the test of time is one that does a variety of things, just cupcakes will only be fleeting. I see a ton of my friends posting pictures of their daily stash of cupcakes, but I know they'll stop loving them and going out of their way for them.
Even though I cringe when I see those posts, I know I won't say anything. I hope that this friend will see the issues before they really start bothering her. It doesn't have to be sweets=love. We know that love=health and the ability to be independent for life.
Today's Holidays: Bathtub Day, Bald and Free Day, World Habitat Day and National Frappe Day.