So, I am working through the article, "23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing" for the next few months.
www.huffingtonpost.com/2 013/09/11/23-things-every- woman-should-stop-doing_n_ 3908151.html
Last week, I was working on saying "no" to my children. It was a difficult week, but not as scary as I assumed it would be. Yes, my kids are used to getting what they want. And they weren't happy this week when they didn't get everything they asked for, but surprisingly...they got over it very quickly.
Here is a great story from this past week. An illustration of how saying "no" can be such a powerful tool in teaching true gratitude.
Mr. T was helping me out with my kids last week. And my littlest shares a room with me right now. Mr. T is lucky enough to be delegated to a mattress on the floor. Haha!
Anyway...my 5 yr old has been BEGGGGING for chocolate milk for like 3 days. He drinks when he wakes in the middle of the night. (I know, I know...not the healthiest habit, but whatever.) We keep telling him "no" because we have other drinks in the house and I just didn't want to spend $4 on a gallon of chocolate milk or more on something like Nestle Quik. And I really don't like chocolate syrup in milk...especially when he's drinking it from a sippy cup at night.
However, at 4:00 in the morning Sunday, in an act of sheer kindness, in the middle of a massive thunderstorm, my amazing man got up from a deep sleep, got dressed and went to the gas station to buy my little man some chocolate milk. And that's not even the sweet part.
At 7:30am, a tiny voice next to me:
"Mommy, I'm thirsty."
I go to the kitchen and come back and hand him the cup.
"This is chocolate milk!!!"
*A few seconds of silence*
"I LOVE TODD!"
Awwww!!!! So sweet! I guarantee if we would have just bought it for him the moment he asked for it, he would not have been so thankful. What a cool byproduct of holding out and working to teach him patience.
This week is a slight twist on last week.
3. Saying “no” to yourself.
A lot of women spend a whole lot of time deciding what we can’t do or shouldn’t do or aren’t good enough to do. Don’t allow your insecurities and anxieties to make your decisions for you -- you’ll only end up missing out on worthwhile experiences. So go talk to that group of people you think you won’t fit in with, stay out late against your better judgment every once in awhile and treat yourself to that blowout even if you don’t really need it.
I was just talking to Mr. T about this! I blogged about a month ago about how I am going to start taking care of myself. Recently, I noticed I am literally to the dregs on all my make-up. Well, it just so happens there is a special on make-up with the company I work for and I could get a great deal. Still, I hate to spend money. Mr. T is encouraging me to order it. I keep resisting. I also realized I DESPERATELY need a haircut. I actually make the time and the room in my budget for a haircut maybe once a year. These are silly things. And, in some senses, they are the basics for me to be able to feel like a well put together, professional woman. I struggle with confidence...and these things could help me with that. I constantly resist buying things like this because I don't want to spend the money. But we aren't talking about Sephora make-up and a $75 haircut here. This is more in the ballpark of Great Clips, you know what I'm saying? I blow more money on a trip to Target every single week than I would on this stuff once a year.
I need to bite the bullet and do this for myself. I work hard and I've struggled to keep this family afloat for the past 9 months and, well, I am not ashamed to say I deserve it. I would never advocate complete carelessness with finances, but every once in awhile, you've just got to allow yourself a couple small things.
So, that's my assignment for this next week. Hold me to it.