Many of us long for heroes and she-roes... people who are showing us that our dreams CAN be achieved. And we want our heroes to succeed.
At the same time, though, we want our heroes to be human, don't we? And that includes the occasional flaw, slip, or even back-slide.
I recently OK'd the sharing of my own success story, and it's out there for the Spark world to see. This is a two-edged sword. Because if you have a certain personality trait, it can energize your inner Polly Perfectionist!
Which means the next time you slip up, Polly won't want ANYBODY to know about it! She'll want to tell you that you have to keep up the APPEARANCE of success, that if you tell anybody you gained a few pounds, or that you're not at your goal yet? That makes you a FAILURE, not a SUCCESS, and why try?
Well, folks, after having read a couple of "confession" blogs by fellow Spark successes I happen to know, who have had considerable public attention recently... I'd like to share this perspective:
The fact that someone who has "succeeded" has a slip, a back-step, or a back-slide does NOT remove them from being a success, in my book. It makes them an even BETTER role model when they dust off their knees and continue the day to day battle. Even if they back away from Spark for a while to work on their issues, it doesn't mean that there is anything to be taken away from their success.
Success is the setting and achieving of a goal. It's an outcome. It's what happens when we don't give up. Each and every one of you here on Spark is a success in some way!
The thing such examples show us (and by the way, I'm one of them, you've seen my "confession" blogs along the way, too) is that this journey is NOT a one time shot and you're done. It's a rinse and repeat, learn something more with each successive experience. It's a process to learn to love yourself and reject the identity that Polly wants to put on you.
I don't know about you... but I want MY heroes and she-roes to be human. To have struggles same as me. To overcome those struggles... not perfectly, but repeatedly. ONE day at a time!
Because LIFE is good, each of us is worth living it to the best of our ability. Spark on!