My mother and I share similar histories of gaining weight. Both of us were slim from childhood to young adults. And, we both gained weight after we got married and we both gained weight after we quit smoking but she also gained weight from bearing 5 children, which I didn’t.
In August 1998, my mother was dying from lung cancer and she was losing weight. She jokingly said to me that she’d always wanted to lose weight but this wasn’t exactly the way she had been thinking. But, then she also said that she didn’t want me to lose my weight the same way.
When I was a teen, I ate whatever I wanted as a teen but given that we lived in an area that didn’t have public transit and given that our family only had one car and 3 teenage girls vying for it, I found it was just easier to walk everywhere so I did.
My weight gain started when I got married. My marriage start weight was 130.
We each had a car and so we didn’t walk everywhere anymore. And, we both loved food so we ate whatever, whenever and however much we wanted. Within the first 5 years we were married, I gained 50 pounds. And, then in 1988, I quit smoking and gained another 50 pounds. And, then just randomly over the years between 1984 and 1998, I gained a further 30 pounds so in 1998 when my mum said that she didn’t want me to lose weight with a terminal illness the way she did, I weighed 260 pounds.
The way that my mum persuaded me to do this was by offering to pay for me to go to Weight Watchers. So, I agreed and I went. At the end of the first week after I had followed the plan perfectly, my second weigh-in was a shock because I had actually GAINED 4 pounds! And, I stayed there for SIX WEEKS! Now, a lot of people would have given up at this point but my mum was very encouraging and told me it would come and to just stay with it. Unfortunately, the first week I actually lost on the scale was because my mum had died in November 2008 and I just couldn’t eat. I quickly found out that I can’t eat when I’m upset/ stressed/crying, et cetera.
However, that said, between 1998 and 2003, I lost 70 pounds in total and I was probably happier more of the time than sad.
To be continued...