Have you, like me, sometimes thought of your weight management journey this way? "If I could just get my body to do x, I'd have my act together..."
I'm learning to interrupt these thoughts. I've become convinced that the more I give my body appreciation, the better success I have. I certainly feel better.
Thinking of my body as separate from me -- as if there's some distinction between me and my body -- is maintaining the illusion that allowed me to get heavy in the first place: What I do to my body is just an action on a "thing." The illusion says what I do to my body has as much to do with my personhood as what I do to my car, my dishes, my desk. Sure, I could make a mess with things, but that wouldn't affect who I am as a human being.
Of course, the truth is (as science has been demonstrating repeatedly in recent years) there's a profound mind-body connection. What I do to my body not only affects my physical health, it affects my relationships, my mood, my emotional wellbeing, and even my spiritual health. Who I am is directly influenced by my relationship with my body. How I treat my body is a direct precursor to how I will interact with others, how I find meaning in life, and how I feel about matters mundane and sublime. The results I get in life are directly related to how I feed my body, the activity I give it, and my self-talk. Bottom line, the more I love my body and cultivate a healthy, respectful relationship with it, the better my life gets in every way.
"Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion." -- Margo Anand
This week, treat your whole self as a lovable companion. Have a beautiful week, friends.