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Last Day of Being 21 & Quarter Life Crises

Sunday, October 06, 2013

Today is my last day of being 21. that means tomorrow is my birthday which wont be an exciting one because I'll be all alone with my two dogs. My boyfriend is traveling to a different state for work and I'm stuck with no car, and I'm 15 hours away from my friends and family. but that's okay, I'll be getting a lot of stuff done that needed to be done a long time ago.

If you've read my last blog, I've been depressed for some time and I was in the search of a good self help book. Iv'e read one so far, it's called Choose Yourself (be happy, make million, live the dream), by Altucher James, and Costolo Dick. And Iv'e got about 5 more books that are waiting to be read.

But anyways, I don't care to make millions or own a business so parts of this book wasn't for me. But the advise and realization that I'm making the wrong decisions already, is life changing.

I'll admit that I'm having a quarter life crises. I'm always comparing myself to others my age, I panic when things don't go right or feeling like I'm failing, I feel paralyzed to make decisions for myself, and I've been trying to find a "purpose" in life. And I've been doing this since I was 18!

This book made me change those habits and thoughts in one day.

Things I've learned that's life changing;
(I wont be going into detail. If you want to understand more about these topics, read the book! it's only $2.99)

*I learned that I cant rely on accomplishing goals or events to make me happy.
*I've learned to just DO what makes me happy without thinking about failing
*How to stop thinking so much about the future or past, which can cause depression.
*How to find my passion
*How to make the best out of each day
*to stop thinking about a "purpose" and find my inner happiness

I really feel so much lighter after reading this book. I thought I would have to spend 1000$ on therapy and depression pills. Now I know I had all the tools already to help myself. All I had to do is change the way I think, and all those pesky worries and self doubts go away, forever.

Today I'm going to enjoy the sun shine with my dogs and do my dog training homework. Then take a bike ride to the grocery store and buy different veggies I've never had before. I may even film an art video and start doing YouTube again.

Who knows what might come my way or what I may or may not do. for once, I'm not worried and that's the greatest feeling of all.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
THEROSIEBEE 10/9/2013 9:50AM

    Good for you! Remember you have all the power right inside of you. That sounds like a great book, too. I'm going to have to pick it up.

And Happy Birthday!! :)

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MCJULIEO 10/6/2013 10:18PM

    A good book beats the heck out of expensive therapy!


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IAMSHE-RA 10/6/2013 3:38PM

    emoticon early!!

I waited until I turned 25 before I had my first life crisis!! Good for you for getting it out of the way early!! emoticon Seriously, I'm not trying to belittle your feelings. I've been where you are and I've felt what you are feeling. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is learn to not compare yourself to anyone else. There is no one in the world like you. You are an original and you will find your true path.

I think everyone goes through the self-help book phase. I have a great one for you. It's a bit on the fluffy side, but its very positive. "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. Sometimes you just need to hear positive affirmations from someone else.

You are certainly going to experience lots of changes in your life during the next few years. Live in the moment and try not to worry so much. If I could tell my younger self something it would be not to worry so much. I worried about the future so much that I don't think I enjoyed the present very much. Making the best of each day is great advice!!!

Have a wonderful birthday!!

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MAMAJAHMAI 10/6/2013 2:45PM

    Fear means -False Evidence Appearing Real-- F.E.A.R

Glad you are testing your wings and gearing to fly..--I can't wait to see the eagle that you will become. I think the whole world is not prepared for the brilliance that you are.

Most people with significant destinies must go through challenges in life. It is your "test" that will produce testimonies. You are definately a fighter for sure.

Happy birthday in advance BB!! Have a blast anyway-we'II have a virtual party tomorrow-woo hoo!!! emoticon

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