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My real goal

Friday, October 04, 2013

I may have had a new breakthrough this week. You'd think that your goal is a number on the scale or even a feeling of comfort, but in reality I have a new goal. I want to have a good quality of life and not just focus on the quantity of it.

I am likely to live past 80 if you look at when all my grandparents died, some in their mid-80's some on their late 90's, so I am likely to live until I'm old no matter what I do to my body. Looking at the quality of life for some of those people makes me want to make sure I'm taking good care of myself so I can have a good quality of life when I'm old.

My one Grandmother was dying since she was little, or at least that's how she make us think she was since we were little. It was always oh poor me, I'm in need of help. She really needed a lot of help when she hit old age and that lasted for a few decades. She died happy in her late 90's in a nursing home where she was taken care of 24/7.

Her husband/my Grandfather did not take good care of himself because he was so focused on her for a long time. He was still kicking for a long time, a couple of years after his wife died he finally went, but his quality of life was probably not as great as we'd like to think with the state of his home in the end and the fact he was always getting into car accidents, so I'm pretty sure he had bad cataracts. He had several health problems during certain times of his life, but he still ended up living to be in his late 90's.

My other Grandpa was a chronic smoker and drinker. He had a dozen heart attacks and was hardly able to move during the last decade of his life. I'm not sure why he was so angry at life, but he did plenty of damage and needed care for a long time at the end. That is not an easy way to die. He lasted into his early 80's.

His wife/my other Grandma was also a smoker and drinker, but that may have been because of Grandpa. It's wasn't the smoking and drinking that killed her though. It was an undiagnosed tumor in her brain, which was probably there from birth, that finally killed her at 81. She lost all function in the last month of her life. She could not even stand without help. From diagnosis in the hospital to death took 3 weeks.

All these deaths that I've seen in the last decade makes me want to be proactive now to make sure that I keep on kicking until I kick the bucket. I can't just sit around and wait for a slow death, I want to be that old woman who is still taking walks every day and being able to garden until I'm old.

With this bum leg this last month makes me want to make sure I can always use it, no matter how old I get. Aches, pains and lack of mobility are frustrating and I don't want that frustration.

When I treat my body right, I'm more likely to have a great old body. It's not about the number on the scale anymore, it's about how my body feels and how strong I am. I do not want a lengthy death, I want to be healthy until the last moment of my life.

Today's Holidays: Toot Your Flute Day, World Smile Day, National Golf Day, National Denim Day, World Animal Day, International Frugal Fun Day, National Taco Day and National Vodka Day.
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    So True. It's about more than just the numbers.
    1601 days ago
  • BRENDA_G50
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    I'm so appreciative of what you've written here. Thank you so much for sharing!

    Love, Ginger
    1602 days ago
    Good goal
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  • KAREN608
    If only we would think this way as teenagers!

    In my family, Dad died at 54 with heart attack, liver bad from alcohol, Mom died at 70 with stroke: bleeding and clot, so nothing medical could do. Others died in 60s.

    I do hope I am healthier and live longer than most in my family.
    I know taking good steps like eating well and walking make a big difference.
    1603 days ago
    As you might know (I have mentioned it on my blog and I think I've mentioned it in comments on yours), my mom was recently diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. Her mother had it, along with other health problems. My mom realized that she did want to live like her mother, who had very poor quality of life in the last 10 years of her life. She has listened to what her doctors have told her and talks about her "lifestyle change" and how she wants to live as long as she can to be with us.

    It is so heartening to hear her, and you, and so many others on Spark how health really "clicks" now in a way it didn't before. emoticon

    1603 days ago
    Thanks for this blog. My last remaining Grandparent (my Dad's dad) was just diagnosed with cancer on Sunday. Its been really hard for the whole family. But for me, i'm terrified because I don't want/have children and I'm wondering what its going to be like when I need care.

    I'm with you, I'm going to treat my body right, right now, so I can take care of myself as long as possible.

    PS - it's also truck driver's day "10-4, good buddy!"
    1603 days ago
    I agree with you. I think that if we just focus on being healthy, those actions will inevitably cause us to lose some of the weight we want to lose anyway.
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