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Alternate Explanations

Thursday, October 03, 2013

One of the first things my therapist taught me (back when I was actually seeing one) is to always look for an alternate explanation when I’m going down the path of distorted thinking ( wp.me/p1N36Q-23 ).

Unfortunately, I just could not think of what the alternate explanation for being asked if I feel like I’m “busy enough” by a superior might be… leave it to my husband to figure it out:

“If you think about it rationally, you don’t go to the person you are going to lay off to ask them if they are busy enough – because you already know the answer to that. Maybe she’s alluding that layoffs are coming to a trusted individual to see who she might be able to shift some of the work to…”

God, I love him. It might be a stretch, but it makes me feel better.

I’m not sure if I literally worried myself sick over this, but I developed a migraine headache late Tuesday night that lasted well into this morning. Maybe it was a result of overdosing on sugar. Yesterday, I wasn’t able to work – just laid in bed with the lights off and downed Tylenol like candy. Needless to say, it was easy not to binge yesterday, and managed to stay on track today.
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    Hope you're feeling better soon. It will all be alright.
    1603 days ago
    Would you consider following up with her by email to clarify? Maybe flatter her ego by thanking her for providing you with such a thought-provoking line of inquiry then give a quick one-paragraph evaluation?
    1603 days ago
    I think it's a valid question. I feel good about the work I do - not overwhelmed everyday. Some days get a little crazy, but I think that's normal. The only area where I think I need improvement is when it comes to making a call or facilitating a meeting that makes me anxious... sometimes I will procrastinate by doing less than productive things (checking email, eating...)

    Anyway, going into panic mode made me not really think very clearly about the question she was asking... I mentioned a few projects on my plate and left it at that.
    1603 days ago
    Here's a really stupid question. If you were to answer 100% honestly, what would you reply? ARE you busy enough, are you too busy, or are you bored? I haven't met a boss yet who didn't appreciate an honest, straight-up answer.

    I probably would have taken the Jewish route and answered a question with a question: "Pretty much. Why do you ask?"
    1604 days ago
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