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A *small* Rant

Wednesday, October 02, 2013

So, there are these family members that we see fairly often in a week. We get together for dinner, or they come to our house. Sometimes we visit just because. You get the idea.

I get so very bothered when comments are made about what I choose to eat or not eat.

So, tonight we went out to eat. I looked up the menu online before we went so I knew what I was going to get. Buffalo chicken wrap (no cheese, no onions, ranch on the side). The chicken was a fritter type but I knew all day I was going to have that and I planned for it. I had no problems about what I ate. (Well, except for the fries, I planned to not have any but I had a handful but whatever I'm not going to get hung up on that). After we ate, I made a random comment about how full I was. This started a conversation about how if that made me full, then I'm probably just used to not eating enough in general...blah blah blah.

Thing is it's not the first time these people have talked about this to me. What they don't get is that since being on SparkPeople, I've learned so much about what healthy portions are. I can eyeball something fairly well when trying to figure what a serving is. If I'm not sure I usually just skip it or just have very little. I'm happy having food on my plate and not going back for a second or third helping.

They brought doughnuts over last weekend. Ugh. This does not even tempt me. Especially after what happened. When I heard they were coming over with doughnuts I said to my husband something like oh great now I have to hear about not eating them. To be polite (and I know I shouldn't have) I ate a half a glazed. I couldn't believe how awful-sweet that thing was. It gave me a headache all day.

I'm just sick of the comments. Because I am eating better and they are not. I can stop and they go back for more. They buy bakery sweets to snack on I don't buy that stuff.

Sorry, don't even know why I bothered blogging about this. I know we all run into this. Just feeling fed up at the moment.
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JOURNEY1986 10/6/2013 8:25PM

    I think it's worse this time of year - all of the homey and comfy things are coming out now that the cold is settling in, and anyone caving in to those delicious but usually unhealthy comforts want company to feel better about themselves.

I had the Aunt I live with tell me, "It's not good to starve yourself, eat something!" just because I said I had eaten a snack before coming home and wasn't hungry for dinner. I always eat - but because she knows that I'm eating healither and working out her mind immediately jumped to the fact that I must be starving myself because I didn't want dinner, rather than listening when I said that I had eaten something pretty filling about an hour prior and wasn't hungry. I also get it at work when I don't want something and get the peer pressure to eat it. I just get annoyed and firmly tell them, "I don't want it, please stop asking, unless you really want me to be miserable and choke down something I don't want just because you want me to." I'm not very polite about it anymore, depending on who it is. In my opinion, no one should have to explain themselves. No is No - whether you are saying no because you are watching what you eat, don't like the food, are allergic, or really want the food but are trying to eat healthier - no is no!!! ugh! It annoys me big time.

Have you thought about putting out a healthy snack too so you (and they) can have another option out there? I love making something that people think is bad for you and turns out it's good for you and delicious. Sometimes it's like something clicks for people - like, "ohhhh! THAT'S why you said no to the doughnuts, that other thing is delicious!" My favorites are brushetta and those Stacy's cinnamon sugar pita chips with a fruity yogurt dip. Both are super easy and delicious to make, and the brushetta goes well with wine and the chips and dip go well with coffee. Spark would also have tons of good snack recipe's that you could look into. When I do it the company doesn't get offended - if anything they seemed grateful to not have to deal with the pressure of bringing food that the person they are visiting doesn't like or want.

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DREAMSEEKER9 10/6/2013 8:10AM

    I get it, sometimes family and friends push unhealthy food onto us and don't realize that they are hurting us more than they are helping us. I don't know if it's a subconscious sabotage move on their part, or they just don't want to feel alone in their eating habits. I think your choices sounded very reasonable in dealing with the issues as they came up, and I can understand your frustration! emoticon

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NELLIEC 10/3/2013 3:00PM

    It does help to write or talk about something that bothers you. And you do have a right to be sick and tired of their comments!

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AVANELL 10/3/2013 8:33AM

    Don't listen to the naysayers; you know what is good for you and are making healthy choices to follow the plan that you have for your life. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, with the decisions that you are making, and the things that they say to you or about you will bounce off of you like a ball off a wall. You're doing emoticon . Just walk in love towards your friends and family and they will see the difference in you very quickly! Love covers a multitude of sins!


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KLDJSURVEY 10/2/2013 10:01PM

    you are right

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