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Wednesday, October 02, 2013

RE: My fitness times, & routines on, some of you, do not believe, me about what, i write down, on my Fitness Tiimes, & Routines on,, (you all, know exactly who, you are no, names mentioned).

This upsets me, greatly & makes, me sad as, the last time, i had a, similar problem to this, was just before, Xmas (2012) when, i was bullied, on this so, called Website which, i thought was, friendly (how wrong i, am !!!! !!!! !!!!).

I do hope, that i am, not going to, be Bullied about, this as i, would hate to, stop being/, coming on this, Website completely, as i have, come to far, & made so, so many friends, to completely give, up doing what, i love the, most Blogs etc, etc etc etc.

If i do, have to give, up all of, this i will, be very very, sad & very, very unhappy again, just like i, was the last, time this happened, to me just, before Xmas (2012), this last bit, is to those, people who like, to bully other, lonely vulnerable People, JUST GROW UP, !!!! !!!! !!!!. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    Make your trackers private. It's really no one else's business what you do!!!
    1438 days ago
    ignore the negative comments. You know what you are doing don't let the other people deter what you are doing.
    1443 days ago
    I've worked 13 - 16-hr days of extremely strenuous work, driving a recycling truck, literally running to the curb and back, hefting 4,000 kg up to the hopper and then running back to the curb. Not allowed to take breaks except for a quick washroom run while at the recycling facility. The closest I could find is "farm labour", so that's what I use to track some of the workout that I got on the job.

    I was also told by my trainer that if I was still breathing, I wasn't going fast enough.

    No need to go to the gym at the end of the day - straight home to bed and straight back at it the next day. My husband would nearly have to carry me out the door.

    Now, I still do strenuous work, but am treated so much better and get paid very nicely for using my body as a machine! LOL :D

    Hang in there, sweetie. Bad people need to be reported and kicked off. If it was just some helpful advice that got misunderstood. take a look and be sure you know it's bullying and not someone trying to make sure you're tracking correctly. You are on the winning team - we won't let anyone bring you down! (((hugs!)))
    1443 days ago
    Sometimes when we come from different places we learn to communicate differently. This, to me, sounds more like a communication misunderstanding than someone being intentionally mean.

    Also, you are in a different country than we are in, and in no way is that a negative thing, but you have a different measure system than we use. So maybe your food tracker is setup differently for you. I'm not sure, I think a gram is a gram no matter what. Hours are hours no matter what country you are in and 14 hours of exercise is a big chunk in a day regardless. We have 24 hours in a day and if you are exercising 14 hours of that day it leaves you with 10 hours to get everything else done. I'm not in any way saying that you have entered in the wrong information or that you are not exercising for 14 hours but if it's all posted correctly then I'm asking sincerely, how much sleep do you get? You only have 10 hours remaining in the day and apparently you work if you have your own flat that you are fixing up. How many hours of work do you do in a day? I just want to understand, not saying that you are putting wrong information in.

    Again, please do not misread this and take this in a negative content. It is not my intent to be negative at all. It would just help all of us, who can't dedicate 14 hours to exercise to understand how you are doing it? If this is a daily thing how long will it take before you are completely burned out and literally incapable of doing it to that extreme any longer. I would suspect you would hit burnout within a weeks time.

    I believe everyone that commented on your blog only wishes the best for you and wants to read about your success. We want to see you reach your goal. But we all want you to go about it in a healthy, realistic way also.

    Sometimes we tend to take positive criticism in a negative way. Positive criticism is when someone points out something that we are doing incorrectly in order to help us correct the wrong and to improve. Positive criticism is a good thing but we have to be able to tell the difference when someone is pointing out a wrong for our own good and when someone is being cruel and is just wanting to make us look back or calls us a liar.

    I hope you can receive what I've said in a positive way because that is my intent. I truly, and with all honest and sincerity want you to succeed. I wish you the best.
    1445 days ago
  • FISHER011
    Hope it all works out for you! You have so much good advice from everyone!
    1446 days ago
    I was just looking at your fitness tracker (which you have chosen to make public) and see that you are posting over 14 hours of actual exercise almost every single day, things like situps, push-ups and pole-dancing for 2 hours each, plus several others for 2 each! I think it's understandable that some might find that hard to believe. For most of us, that would be totally impossible as well as unhealthy. Maybe you'd be better off making your tracker private?
    1449 days ago
    I hope that the blessing far out weigh the ugly comments. Just delete the comments and then delete them from your mind at the same time. Report them to Spark People and they will have to be the one to leave. emoticon
    1450 days ago
    I have been at SP since it began...don't even KNOW how many years....and have NEVER had anyone say anything "hateful". We don't always agree on things, especially when the conversations migrate toward other topics, but can we learn anything if we never listen to folks who think differently than we do?

    I hope you can resolve this without hurt feelings and still use this very practical site for your own benefit, all the while encouraging others.
    1450 days ago
    I delete mean things. It hurts too much. I can take criticism, but when people are outright mean then they are deleted. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1451 days ago
  • MIPCY1
    If this is all about that one comment on your page, he was only trying to be helpful. I went and looked back at your trackers. I would definitely suggest looking at your nutrition a little more carefully (1 gram of brewed tea? or 1 gram of sliced apple?) These amounts are so small. Grams are closer to paper clips in weight. I also wonder if maybe you intended to put the number of reps of your ST, rather than the time you spent doing that, or you spent 120 minutes doing all of those things. But someone suggesting that you make sure to input things correctly is absolutely not bullying. It may make you feel bad because they don't do things the way you do things, but don't let it.
    1451 days ago
    It doesn't look like bullying to me, it looked like helpful comments. 14 hours a day looks like it is either a mistake or unhealthy/obsessive. I agree with Naypooie-this is not what bullying looks like.
    1452 days ago
    im very sorry to read about this. I hope things get better. I would suggest like others have to report it. It's not the Sparkpeople way.
    1452 days ago
    Ignore the haters... The only one you have to be accountable to is yourself....

    You can do this!
    1452 days ago
    I cannot believe that this is happening to you emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1452 days ago
    Hi! I have been with SP for 1 1/2 years and I have had some problems with some people but the majority have been really great. I just chose to ignore them, removed their comments from my SparkPage and if they were friends, blocked them.

    I hope you choose what is good for you here in SP. Like in the world, here too are people who aren't friendly. Reach out to those of us who care about you and want you to succeed. emoticon emoticon YOU HAVE THE POWER IN YOUR LIFE.
    1452 days ago
    We are all different. Sometimes a person's communication style may be a problem, or that they are just having a bad day, or some other circumstance.

    It helps me to keep my perspective if I give them a break and it makes me feel like a better person. I also sometimes remind myself that I am not made of glass or that I am a big girl and I can handle it.

    Someone once pointed out to me that we give ourselves credit for intentions but others credit only for actions and results.
    1452 days ago
    Unfortunatly jerks and well-meaning buttinkyes are everywhere. blow off the stuff that hinders you and use the rest as encouragement to be stronger,
    1452 days ago
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    1452 days ago
    OK, looked around, and I see no bullies, haters, other mean people. Someone suggested that she must of erred when she entered that she was working out 14 hours a day.

    And frankly, entry error looks a lot more likely than exercising 14 hours in a single day. It isn't bullying, it's just pointing out that it looks like she did something incorrectly.

    Here JUST FOR ILLUSTRATION !!! is what bullying would look like: Hey dumb$hit, no way you work out 14 hours a day! Who do you think you're kidding? You think anyone's going to believe that BS?

    "please input CORRECTLY" (what was actually said) isn't.

    1452 days ago
    Don't let the haters get you done. emoticon
    1452 days ago
  • JUDITH316
    I want you to know I care and I am with you and will continue to cheer you on your journey. I am so sorry this has happened to you, I've never heard of this happening on Spark before, the best thing to do is report it to one of the Coaches and keep in close contact with all your friend's and Teams that are supporting you. emoticon emoticon
    1453 days ago
    questioning is not bullying . It is up to you to be honest with yourself about what you truly do or do not. maybe the people who questioned you have a real concern for you. extreme exercising is not good for you at all . 14 hours in a day is to much . hugs there is a lot of love here you need to remember that
    1453 days ago
    You have to stand up for yourself, and you are doing that!
    1453 days ago
    You are on this for you - not for anyone else to question or criticize you. I believe in you!
    1453 days ago
    Sorry to hear that you think of it as being bullied. Not that at all. Please do not think that.
    It's just ,that alot of people work really hard each and every day.
    Struggling with weight issues and everything else. Just like you and me.
    It just seems to me that your posted exercise minutes. 14hours each day doing the exact same exercises each day seems extreme.
    I apologize if you think that is a form of bullinging. That is not my intentions.
    It's just about keeping spirits and motivation up and some people get frustrated when they can't do enough.
    I hope you and all the other bloggers understand where I'm coming from.
    1453 days ago
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  • KIM22211
    do not I repeat do NOT let haters win! pft, honey, you are going to have obstacles through life and nobody but nobody has permission to control your thoughts and emotions but you!!! You vented it out. That is great. Now, leave it and do not let this occupy your mind! Who cares what ANYONE thinks! Proof is in the results! You got this!!! We are a team (weight for God) you must be doing something right to cause a stir! lol!!!
    1453 days ago
  • K1TT3N
    Don't give up ..... your doing an awesome job ... keep your head up and report it
    1453 days ago
    Report it and move on...don't use any more of your time worrying about it! emoticon
    1453 days ago
    Perhaps you could report the bullying to the Admins of this site? Or is there a way to block them? Nobody should be bullied here or anywhere else.
    1453 days ago
    I am sorry to hear that. Let them eat their heart out. They are jealous. Keep doing what you are doing and ignore them. This website has a lot of people that are supportive. Look us up and ignore the haters.
    1453 days ago
  • MJ7DM33
    Continue to do what works for you!
    1453 days ago
    Don't give up because so people need to get on with there own lives. Just keep on doing your thing and don't look back. Maybe you would feel better sharing more in depth with a smaller group using spark mail for a while. Keep posting your times and be proud. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1453 days ago
    You should not be bullied or intimidated by anyone. I would take your fitness and food trackers and make them private. I don't know if other people do this -- but if you are traveling or away from the internet for several days you can enter up to 7 days ahead or 7 days after. I have done that after backpacking, and I will do it again after my cruise. Spark only lets you get up to 25 exercise points a day -- and after all the points are just a way of tracking your progress! So no one should criticize anyone else's fitness points and progress. Hang in there Melanie! (you can also block the people who are negative and delete their posts)
    1453 days ago

    Who are these weird people? They obviously have no lives if they can analyze and criticize how much exercise you do or don't do. Sparkpeople is an honour system and it is totally up to you what you do or don't do. I believe you but even if you made up statistics who exactly would you be hurting? emoticon Maybe if you made your page private or something you could only let in those you wanted to and block the bullies.

    A brilliant psychiatrist once told me, "What other people think of me is none of my business." Meaning they don't really know you, especially true on a virtual site. So ignore them and just concentrate on all your supportive friends.
    1453 days ago
    Sweetie, just ignore the negative nellies!! You are doing great and you have friends. Just run with us.
    1453 days ago
  • JUNEAU2010
    I have not experienced (much) of what you have. It would never occur to me to pound on someone for whatever is associated with their SP activity. It's not my place and I have no business passing that kind of judgment.

    I hope you will stick it out. emoticon
    1453 days ago
    You have a lot of friends here, so why would you let a few mean-spirited people chase you off?? Ignore them, or block them, and if they are being abusive you should report them to SP.
    1453 days ago
    I am sorry to hear someone bullied you.I came to your bog from a friend's and it was a first time read for me.I often post very high exercise times because I spend my days doing physiotherapy (yes it does count as exercise !) If people have nothing better to do than judge you shame on them.I obviously don't know you but I would never presume to judge you.I also would not tell you to not blog , I would suggest ignoring the person who has been so rude.I normally say consider the source.Generally I think this is a friendly site and I would not want a few bad apples to tarnish the image of the majority . Carry on doing what you enjoy knowing more people support you than not !
    1453 days ago
    I am so sorry someone bullied you. shame on them and I hope you can simply ignore them. These people should remember if you can't say anything nice, just shut your mouth! Hugs, Victoria
    1453 days ago
    emoticon Hi Melanie .. Please don't leave this incredible site .. No one has the right to judge you .. This is not what sparkpeople is all about .. You keep doing what you are doing ..
    If by any chance, you have entered the tracker wrongly (it is very easy to make mistakes) it's your business no-one else's ..
    Thinking of you .. Hugs Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1453 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/2/2013 4:34:39 PM
    I just looked at your fitness log, and I can see why people are skeptical. It says you did 14 hours and five minutes of exercise today and every day you recorded exercise for the past several months.

    While that's not impossible, it would pretty much prevent you from doing anything else with your day. Did you really mean to say you did two hours of situps? And two hours of pushups? And two hours of bike, yoga, etc.?

    If you say that's what you do, I'm willing to believe you. I'd just like to confirm that you actually meant to say what you said.
    1453 days ago
    When you feel bullied then you should report these people to Spark. I think that they would like to know. I don't think they would like it some some members run other members off.

    I think that if someone doesn't believe another's progress they should just keep their opinions to themselves.

    1453 days ago
  • JULIA_211
    Don't give the bullies power! Go on as you usually do and ignore them.
    1453 days ago
    I agree with what some of the others have said; if you get bullied again, report those people. They are probably also doing it to others, so by reporting them, you will also be helping others in your situation.
    1453 days ago
    Block them, or set blogs to private. What they post on your page, post it back a million times. Once they are treated the same way. They will stop. I normally don't tell people to do this, but it seems like it is the same person. Keep standing.. Or you could create a new spark page.

    1453 days ago
    This makes me so sad. And also part of why I made my trackers all hidden. It is me and my computer. My blog entries are out there for anyone to read but not much else. Do. Not. Give. Up! You have been doing so well. Report them and forget them. Do not give them any hold over you, your life, and your accomplishments. emoticon
    1453 days ago
  • KAB7801
    1453 days ago
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