Monday, September 30, 2013
I was just on twitter and came across this piece on teacher net.com http://gazette.teachers.net/ga
s-eye-of-bullying/. Nothing here will be news to anyone who has struggled with their weight - we know we are sanctioned targets. Bullying through weight bias is a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation. We all knew it was time to I something about our health long before we took action. What stopped us? For too many of us it was the fear if ridicule. Fitness clubs don't feature heavy people in their ads, we don't always feel readily accepted.
Therein lies the rub. No one makes healthy choices through self loathing. We don't flourish through disparity. We need to change this last sanctioned form of bullying. What will it take? I don't know. Do we stand up? That's hard when you feel downtrodden, but I think we can seek solidarity in numbers. Maybe we challenge perceptions. I am not advocating that obesity is healthy - there is no medical evidence to support that. But people can be contributing members of society regardless of weight. It shouldn't determine the opportunities we have or the choices available.
Ashley Jaquelin posted about her experiences at lulu lemon and in yoga classes here: http://notesfromthewindycity.b
logspot.com. Weight bias can be devastating. Support systems are imperative. Use SparkPeople here, we are here for each other! Success stories bolster me on daily but member forums have helped me address situations, including a bully on the PTA!!! The feedback was appropriate and appreciated.
As in every other group weight bias will continue unless we fight it! Nurture yourself and live yourself. The next time some comment comes your way address it. "I'm sorry, what did you mean by that? ". Thoughtless comments are mostly just that - thoughtless. Confronting in this manner turns the tables by putting the offender in the hot seat, not you.
Most of us are here because we've determined we're worth it. We're here for healthy reasons and SparkPeople promotes that. Remember this when you head into a world that sometimes is hostile. You're worth the best things in life and deserve every opportunity life has to offer! We can change societal attitudes by challenging them.