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No More People Pleasing: An Update

Monday, September 30, 2013

This used to be me. My last boss used to tell me each time I had a review that my area of growth was to stop people pleasing. He told me that 3 years in a row because I just couldn't give it up.

I never thought of it this way but I can see how it was true for me. It feels good to do something well, & like I said, I was one heck of a people pleaser. Then, when I finally reached that desperation point, I knew something had to change.

"I'm in charge." It's a message I've embraced over the past month or so & it's been empowering. I'm loving my decisions & since the ones I'm making don't directly impact people (e.g. going on a shopping spree & spending all of mine & DH's savings), I don't care what others think.

I'm doing what's best for me & it feels flippin' fantastic.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
THEMRSH 10/2/2013 9:21PM

  Wonderful message Z! Thank you.

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KNH771 10/2/2013 7:06PM

    That second quote from Anne Hathaway is very thought provoking...

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PALMTREEGIRL1 10/2/2013 7:54AM

    Z - In my life I have found that the older you get, the easier it becomes. You take care of you, respect you and worry about you and others will respect you for it. Let them take care of their own issues!

I think you are AMA-Z-ing!

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LADYOLIVER 9/30/2013 8:32PM

    emoticon emoticon my statement as well.....REPEAT "I'm doing what's best for me & it feels flippin' fantastic."

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DRKYASHI 9/30/2013 8:00PM

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GAYEMC 9/30/2013 7:35PM

    Way to go Z! I'm finally letting go of doing for others also. I like to see people happy but I can't take responsibility for that, only for my own happiness. And yes, it does feel good! Keep it up!

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BAREFOOTGRL 9/30/2013 7:08PM

    Good for you!

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