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One problem: many causes, many solutions

Monday, September 30, 2013

Obesity & overweight. That's the problem: it makes us prone to diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease. It saps the quality of our lives. We can't keep up with our spouses, or the kids, or the grandkids as we used to. And it hurts our self-esteem whenever we can't find clothes that fit, or we see ourselves in family photos, or when someone makes a thoughtless comment.

The solution seems simple: burn more calories than calories consumed. A one-size fits all solution. And on some level it is just that simple. But the reasons why we don't do it, or why we do it for a little while and then stop, or why we reach goal and then heart-breakingly gain it all back plus an additional five or ten pounds are diverse.

Obesity & overweight are what scientists cause a heterogeneous problem, meaning that there are many causes. Some of us gain weight because we eat out of boredom or to deal with other emotions such as trauma, some of us lack exercise opportunities because our jobs are sedentary and we don't have time to exercise after work, some of us have hormonal challenges. The list goes on. Heterogeneous.

So while we (all of us obese and overweight folk) have to burn more calories and consume fewer (and better) calories, the individual strategies that will keep us on track and lead us to success are probably as diverse as we are.

Why am I writing this? Because I am you. I have struggled with my weight since I was a child. I have yo-yo dieted. I have lost huge amounts of weight several times in my life and then gained it all back plus a little. I even joined SparkPeople and then drifted away ... with the predictable results.

But I kept coming back and with the help of this wonder resource ( and this wonderful community (all of you) something is different, really different, this time. This morning when I woke up and weighed myself I was only 0.4 pounds away from forty pounds lost. And there is no slowing down in sight.

I finally seem to have found the tailored solution that will enable me to achieve permanent weight loss and a healthy life. Keep watching my page, because there are going to be big changes in the next year.

But my point in writing to you, is not that I can do it, that I am doing it. My point is that I have shared your struggles and if I can do it, so can you. If you are struggling right now, do not give up. Seek to learn from your struggles. When you binge, or fail to exercise or track, try to understand why it happened. I promise you this: it is NOT because you are a bad person, or because you lack willpower, or some other negative thinking like that. We live in a toxic food environment where the whole foods of my grandmother's generation have been replaced by processed crap and our lives have become increasingly urban and sedentary.

But there is hope. I'm not sitting around waiting for the food or exercise environments to change. I have found solutions that work for me. And I found them with the help of this web site and with the support and knowledge of all of you. My solution may not work for you. It is not one-size-fits-all. But I am convinced that there is a solution for you. We are all in this together and I believe the future is a lot healthier than today.

~ TaiChiDancer

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
IMEMINE1 10/4/2013 7:48AM

    emoticon emoticon blog!

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PAPAMIKIE 10/2/2013 7:03AM

    Good post

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HONOURIA 10/1/2013 8:51PM

    That, and the pace of life has changed since your grandmother's time as well.
Well done.

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NELLIEH1 10/1/2013 1:58PM

    Thank you for sharing ... being wiling to lay it out as you have experienced the process of getting healthier, as well as encouraging each of us on SP to search for solutions to our particular wellness problems. You are right, SP friends and this site are very, very helpful.

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KATENURTURE 10/1/2013 12:19PM

    Fantastic post. I know the sentence "I have found solutions that work for me" will inspire me to continue to develop my own solutions. Thanks!

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    This is one of my top ten most favorite SP blog posts of all time. Perfect. Insightful. Well-written (even if you had to edit This needs to be a popular blog post so that others can read it too. I don't "like" a post unless I think it is publish-worthy. This one is.

Looking forward to reading more from your journey as you move through it!

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HGSGUY 10/1/2013 9:11AM

    Excellent blog my friend, filled with wisdom, inspiration, and motivation!
Thank you

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REBECCAMA 10/1/2013 7:44AM

    Great blog!

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KELPIE57 10/1/2013 2:05AM

    Thank you, true words indeed, it is for us all to use the tools available to find our solution. emoticon emoticon

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PINKNFITCARLA 9/30/2013 11:40PM


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KAYOTIC 9/30/2013 10:56PM

    Inspirational words, TaiChiDancer! Thanks!

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DAWNFIRE72 9/30/2013 10:28PM

    You are correct that weight loss and gain is a many faceted thing and indeed one size does not fit all or even most. I look forward to hearing more words of wisdom from you my friend.

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MSGRANNYMAE 9/30/2013 9:25PM


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LIVINGFREE19 9/30/2013 9:01PM

    emoticon blog!
I can so relate to it!

Comment edited on: 9/30/2013 9:02:21 PM

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68ANNE 9/30/2013 8:34PM

    I hope it is ok to share this. The best and most thought provoking way to keep yourself from sabotaging your efforts

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NOMIS1 9/30/2013 6:12PM

    What a wonderful blog and oh how true. I am one of those who have lost and gained more times than I can count. Right now I'm having trouble even getting started.

Soon I will be where you are.

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BRENJET 9/30/2013 4:34PM

    Great blog! I have felt the thrill of reaching my goal weight ...then felt the agony of gaining it all back (and then some!)...I keep saying, "I know HOW to lose weight, I just don't know how to maintain that weight loss." Though, I must say now that I am nearing the big isn't coming off as easily as it did in the past! Your blog is helpful to those of us who have slipped a bit recently. Time to be reflective!
Thanks Steve!

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BEATLETOT 9/30/2013 3:28PM

    emoticon If we ever meet in real life, I'm gonna give you an enormous one of those! =)

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VKKESU 9/30/2013 1:58PM

    Very well written !! I never struggled as a child with weight so it's an entirely new world to me . I've had to break all those BAD habits of eating whatever you want whenever you want because I didn't start gaining until my 30's. It's a hard habit to break but one worthwhile.

Sounds like you are on the right track and I'd have to agree, when I get it all under control and step away from Sparkpeople, I end up coming back with my head held low knowing it's like an old friend there to help. lol

Keep up the good work and the rest will follow.

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CHOCOHIPPO 9/30/2013 12:44PM

    That is so true. There are many options, some better at different times than others, but the only option there isn't - giving up!

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GARDENQE2 9/30/2013 11:25AM

We have to keep on our toes.
Leanness, like liberty, requires constant vigilance.
Strangely enough, what worked five years ago doesn't work now.
Best wishes!

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TRUEGRITS 9/30/2013 11:25AM

    Wow, I needed this blog today for some much needed uplifting. I really like where you write "When you binge, or fail to exercise or track, try to understand why it happened. I promise you this: it is NOT because you are a bad person, or because you lack willpower, or some other negative thinking like that." emoticon

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TAICHIDANCER 9/30/2013 11:16AM

    Gack! My apologies to any of you who TRIED to read this blog immediately after I posted it and before I had a chance to proof it. Talk about "peppered" with errors!

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