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Figuring it out one thing at a time

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

My beau and I have dealt with a big life changing event recently with the loss of his mom. After losing my dad several years ago, I did a LOT of reading up on the stages of grief, and I am sure both he and I are dealing with it in a normal and healthy way.
We have always talked a lot about everything, communication is very important in our relationship...and lately, I have been trying to talk with him even more.
His mom was his 'primary parent' as my dad was my primary. Primary as in the other parent being absent. I know what he is going through and never want him to feel alone.

I have also been reading up on my more frequent panic attacks, and one major change to my 'diet' is that I started taking niacin a few weeks ago. I had taken it in the past to help with my cholesterol and also to help with my depression and it has worked.
Apparently not so much of a help this time.
In reading up, niacin also causes the release of several hormones and I think this is what is messing with me. Not to mention that it may be flushing other things like magnesium out of my body.
I think I am going to stick with prenatal vitamins instead of trying to pick and choose what to supplement.

As for my lack of motivation...I am just burned out. I am burned out with thinking about food and finding time/energy to exercise.
I know how silly that sounds...a jobless person trying to find time to exercise, but what I mean by that is that I am back to eating 3 times a day and my beau is still at 6 times because of his hypoglycemia. The only time we really eat at the same time is supper. Other than that, we are on different sleeping schedules so breakfast and all other meals in the day are thrown off. I am always making something to eat or preparing, or making something nice for dinner that requires hours to prepare whether its because there is a lot of prep time or a lot of steps that take time. I do also clean up the house and have laundry to attend to.
This is all in between dealing with my own aches and pains and recent panic attacks.
Most of the time, by the time I have 30-60 minutes free, I am worn out, sore, or its late at night.

I will just have to figure that one out on my own I guess.
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  • KAREN608
    You know we all are going to put our two cents in don't you?

    Could you try five minutes of walking in place just to get in the mood?

    Cooking: could you possibly plan ahead for his mini meals that he needs,
    chopping veggies etc? Make a double batch of something that can be
    I have a feeling you like cooking and being in the kitchen.
    Maybe just walking in place waiting for something to cook may
    be something that adds exercise to your day. In my kitchen now,
    I have to do a lot more walking back and forth to get anything done.

    Remember that stress is tiring and you might feel differently
    in a month or two. Being kind to yourself is important too.

    Glad you and your man can talk things through.
    1608 days ago
    emoticon I know things are tough right now.

    What about doing something that doesn't feel like "work" or pressure? I know sometimes I feel pressured to EXERCISE when really I could just go for a walk and get some activity and feel better and not have it be A Big Deal. Can you go for a short walk (20-30min) in the morning, before you get busy with all the other stuff or super tired?

    Just thinking of options, but I think the important thing is to find something that fits in your day and makes you feel BETTER, not more stressed.
    1609 days ago
    Wishing all the best for you two.
    1609 days ago
    As you mentioned, you have gone through a life changing event. It takes time to get back into a rhythm that works for you and your beau. You are adjusting to a "new normal". Be kind to yourself. One day at a time...it will get better... emoticon emoticon
    1609 days ago
    You sound like you really need to take that 30 minutes time and release some of your anxiety. Exercise is the best way, but you have to find one that is right for you in your current situation. Maybe something soothing like yoga or Pilates Spark has many videos for you to choose from. Even if you start slow 15-20 minutes a day. I know it is hard believe me I know I just went through a bad experience and I suffer from depression. My panic attacks feel like heart attacks and I hardly sleep at night. I started to exercise just to be able to have something else to think about. well it worked, I feel better about life. don't get me wrong I still have bouts with the depression but I find when I am exercising I feel better. The hardest step is the first one getting started. I really hope you take that first step, if you need to talk message me on Spark, I will be happy to listen.
    1609 days ago
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