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Addiction to emotional pain. Something new I am considering.

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Recently, I had lunch with a particularly insightful friend. We got to talking about why some people just can't seem to see the good in anything and why that might be. I was sharing about a family member in this category and when my friend commented that they are "addicted to their pain", the hair on the back of my neck stood up. I found a possible explanation at the link below, and am sharing it in case you know anyone with this problem.

Sometimes, understanding why something is the case helps.

The article is old, but the explanation is good.
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    I've wondered if I'm in a similar boat to that, actually. It's like I can't get away from the misery to the point where sometimes it feels that's all there is sustaining me.
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    Let me know what you think of it! I haven't watched it in years but it really left an impression. I happened to rent it at the same time as another movie (name now forgotten) but it was about how some people are simply happy even when life throws them a curve ball. It was one of those movies where you don't know how the stories are interrelated until the end. I couldn't believe how the 2 movies were similar, too!!
    1636 days ago
    Thanks to everyone for the responses. I felt like it really struck a chord with me and hoped it would for others as well...

    KABMPH - Thanks for the doc suggestion. It's now in my Netflix queue!
    1636 days ago
    T emoticon emoticon emoticon hanks for sharing.
    1637 days ago
    A lot of people are actually scared of not being miserable.
    1637 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    Very insightful and eye-opening article - thanks for sharing.
    1637 days ago
    We ALL are addicted to our pain, and emoticon sorrow and guilt and fear and inadequacies and feelings of betrayal. The full Monte.
    1637 days ago
    There's a documentary called "What the BLEEP Do We Know?" and it talks about this too, the chemicals that get released during different emotions and how we can get addicted to them, even if they're bad. You should check it out!
    1637 days ago
    OMG! This is eye opening. AND TRUE! You know, I think it is even MORE difficult to reverse this habit than physical addictions (ii.e.substances like alcohol, drugs, tobacco) because it is a MENTAL process, even though it does "light up" the same areas of the brain as lights up when an addict gets his/her substance.

    I can tell you from personal experience with family members that fall into this category, it is REAL, it IS an addiction and those in the environment with someone addicted to pain reach their bottom and loose patience and tolerance with it LONG LONG LONG before the person addicted does. . . like in every other addiction!

    It is tough to live with for sure.

    Thanks for this article. Indeed, it does explain a lot.

    1637 days ago
    Draining is an excellent way to describe this... It is hard to maintain a positive way of thinking when one is consistently the "Debbie Downer." Thank you for sharing this article. Old or not, it was helpful!
    1637 days ago
    Thanks for sharing. Some people in our lives can really be draining to us. It helps to understand why so we can stop being angry at them...
    1637 days ago
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