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I'm writing a love letter to my husband

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

I wanted to talk to him the other day about a diet bet, but haven't been able to bring it up, so instead I'm going to write a love letter to him. It will tell him how I appreciate the things he does to show me he loves me. It will also tell him how I worry about him and part of that is his health and how his weight affects that.

He has finally been diagnosed with asthma this year, so his breathing issues seem to be coming back to controlled. It flares up once or twice a year during the big seasonal changes. He has had leg issues (inherited them from his dad) and I know that his weight is part of that problem too.

I would miss him if he only lasts another couple of decades. He's turning 40 this year and I want him to last past 60, but if he doesn't keep up with his health, he won't make it too far past that.

I know that telling him that he needs to lose weight makes him not want to, but if I put my emotions behind it, maybe he'll think about it differently. I've been hinting to him that he'd look great as Wolverine, but I think he just laughs it off.

I see him glow when he is a pound or two lighter, he tells me when he lost a pound. He's really great at this for a week or two, but then falls right back into the old habits. I know he wants to do it, but just hasn't seen the Spark that will get him to really do it.

I'm hoping that this is the right way to approach him, nothing else has really worked so far, even the healthy habits I've brought into the home. Since his birthday is next month, perhaps he'll start to look at how to extend his life and make it the best he can.

He's starting at around 214 pounds (not his highest) but I'd love to see him under 200 again. He knows I have his back and the ability to help him through anything. I would miss him if I were to never see him again because he didn't take care of himself.

Today's Holidays: Jim Henson was born September 24, 1936, National Punctuation Day and National Cherries Jubilee Day.
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    Good for you! My husband is seeing my results and is thinking about it. I know he will get there when the time is right.
    1634 days ago
  • BRENDA_G50
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    1635 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    Hoping this time you hubby will decide this is now the time to start getting into being My hubby ihas been eating better since I've started with sparks, it did take some time tho. Now we're in the grocery store he picks some item up, looks at the nutrition---then says oh this wouldn't be good or gee we could buy this it is low in this and that.He does like having beer--has switched to light beer now. so still has a ways to go---but then so do I.
    1635 days ago
  • KAREN608
    Best to nip it in the bud early before the 214 goes to 250!

    Today is my wedding anniversary so I thought it cute you were going to write a love note to your hubby. Mine is not ready to lose weight, and he is 72 on Nov 11 this year and now 320... I am sad as he has to make the first step and his age is against him ... I am nervous for him. Glad you are trying to inspire your man, hope he goes for it.
    1635 days ago
    I hope writing a letter to him can help him see how much you love him, and want him to be around for another 40 years. I think it's a great idea.
    1635 days ago
    My boyfriend is turning 40 next month too! On the 22nd. emoticon

    Good luck with your husband. Just remember, the only person you can control or change is yourself. But sharing your feelings hopefully can't hurt!!
    1635 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    That is always hard to tell a spouse they need/should lose weight. I finally was able to convince my husband after a year of doing spark and he really has gotten into and weighing and measuring and counting calories.
    Good luck, I hope the love behind the reason is enough to convince your husband to follow your lead and to reap the benefits of being leaner and feeling so much better.
    1636 days ago
    It's always hard to know how to help a person you love get motivated to lose weight. I hope this will be what he needs to hear!
    1636 days ago
    That is great; I hope he appreciates it as it is intended!

    1636 days ago
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