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When Bad SEEMS to Outweigh The Good

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Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Yup, we all have days when the bad seems to outweigh the good and we begin thinking, life isnít fair. You get bogged down in traffic, and you end up being late for work or that important meeting. Then your car dies and you have to have it towed. So now you're asking yourself, ďWhy me?Ē Events like these test anyoneís ability to be grateful and optimism. If you are one of t hose people who have a tendency to feel sorry for yourself, guess what. Murphy's law? Things usually progress to the next stage: the pity party. You begin to feel like the innocent victim of a dismal fate because you are seeing your life through inaccurate lenses. Most of the thoughts that run through your mind at times like these are not helpful, and they mainly serve to increase your indignation and feelings of powerlessness. What these feelings and thoughts donít do is change your circumstances or make you feel better. Time to adjust those lenses.

When we have a terrible day, there should definitely be a time and place to vent our feelings that we can process them. Itís especially important not to deny or pretend that we're fine with things arenít. Itís also important, too, to realize when youíre having a pity party. So, itís a very good idea to set a time limit in which to fully express your emotions and not feel guilty, ashamed, or judge yourself. You may want to journal your feelings as well. Once your time is up, let go of the negativity you've just expressed. If youíve written down your feelings, burn the piece of paper or throw it in the recycling bin. DO NOT RETRIEVE IT!

We should never dwell on unpleasant experiences. Instead we should do everything we can to avoid holding on to negative emotions. When we indulge in self-pity, we only make a bad day worse. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, release the notion that you are a victim, and notice the good that exists in your life

I have a theory. If it's someone, be it family, friend, co-worker or even a total stranger, that was the cause and effect, chances are they are totally oblivious of their actions and have moved on. I'll just bet that if you approached them about it they'd look at you shocked and surprised. So why should we hang onto the negativity they caused. It's only dragging you down. It's a solo flight. Vent it, get over it, move on.
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SHERRIELEE2 10/14/2013 1:02PM

  Very well done. Self-reflection was informative and made me consider how I feel today. Thank you for your thoughts and feelings. I must get back on track and lose the wt I have gained in the past 4 months. emoticon

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LIVELYGIRL2 10/5/2013 12:49AM

  Good idea! Keep on moving in a better direction emoticon

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LEANMEAN2 10/1/2013 6:54AM

    I love your background picture. Thanks for sharing.



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WHITEANGEL4 9/30/2013 11:10AM

    A great reminder to all of us....thanks for the wise obseration

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MAYBER 9/28/2013 11:21PM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and I will write down my pity party troubles and then burn then one at a time
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NASFKAB 9/28/2013 5:35AM

  so very true why hang on to unpleasant thoughts then have let them hurt me over & over thank you

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BIGFAMILY9 9/27/2013 12:02PM

    Thanks! Great reminder! emoticon

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YUDEL6024KA 9/27/2013 10:38AM

    Can't stop coming back for more is great reminders thanks

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NOMENA2010 9/27/2013 9:48AM

  Great posting! You are so right! Sometimes I felt hurt for years and that person get on with her/his life and enjoy it! What we have from feeling hurt with someone behaviour? Noting! Dont hang out on negative emotions to anyone, they are not worth it! Thank you for wisdom!

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SLIMLEAF 9/27/2013 7:51AM

    Wise words.

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SBHOPALE 9/27/2013 1:46AM

  Very good article . Best way to vent emotions by burning the paper . Thank u. emoticon

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JSEATTLE 9/26/2013 10:57PM

  How true, push through the pain and get on with it!

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MUGSY40 9/26/2013 8:37PM

    Very good blog. Seems most of my 72 years I have been trying to loss weight.
so I am trying again with the help of the spark friends. emoticon

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LYNMEINDERS 9/26/2013 7:29PM

    Thats so so true...awesome blog....
Really something we all need to hook into so we can move on in our journey....

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MARYJEANSL 9/26/2013 6:42PM

  True enough - I remember once working reeeeeeeeeeeally hard to forgive someone who had hurt me. It was a real light bulb moment for me when I realized that she probably had no clue at all that she had done anything wrong at all.

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CHARTHESTAR 9/26/2013 5:57PM

    great post!

so true that most are totally oblivious of their actions and have moved on
So now we need to move forward also.

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PROPMAN1 9/26/2013 3:16PM

  Loved your background photo...even though fall is not my favorite season. How right you are....while you're hanging on to the negative feelings...others have moved on. If possible, it is best to vent for a bit (cry if you must) and start to forgive/forget. Really...in an hour/day/week/etc. how much will it really matter? Was anyone permanently hurt? No...then you had best move on...The only person getting injured is you (and you're causing the injury).

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LOSTLIME 9/26/2013 2:25PM

    Your words have helped me today. Thanks for sharing. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ROZZIEOZZIE 9/26/2013 1:19PM

    Nothing good can come from being negative! Thank you for being so inspiring!!
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NONNAOF2 9/26/2013 12:46PM

  I've always said to myself that the past is just that, the past, it's from today that we move onward and not bring any negativity with us! :-)

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SWEET_CAROLYN 9/26/2013 12:17PM

    "We should never dwell on unpleasant experiences."

LOVE this!! Great for weight loss, maintenance, or just LIFE!

Thank you for a wonderful blog post, so uplifting and encouraging!

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TIGER_LILY_613 9/26/2013 12:08PM

    Great advice. Thank you !

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SCRAPBECCA 9/26/2013 11:47AM

    I couldn't agree more! Name it, claim it and let it go!

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SUSIEMT 9/26/2013 11:28AM

    good reminders!

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MADMIRANDA 9/26/2013 10:38AM

    Many truths. Life is too short to hang on to grudges. Thank you.

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JOANNHUNT 9/26/2013 10:06AM

    AWESOME BLOG. THANK YOU FOR SHARING THAT WISDOM.

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GOOSIEMOON 9/26/2013 10:04AM

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

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CAPECODBABE 9/26/2013 9:55AM

    So happy to see you as a featured blog.

And a great blog it is!!!!

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OFFICECHIK 9/26/2013 9:49AM

    Good post.

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BBMOM9992 9/26/2013 9:48AM

    I am the QUEEN of Pity Parties!.....Thanks so much for your words of encouragement! emoticon

You are so right! I tend to dwell on the negative things people say to me and about me....I let it replay in my head over and over again, all the while the story is getting worse and worse. But no more, I am taking back my life. I live a great life and despite the judgement from other people, I am absolutely OK. I AM good enough. I AM smart enough. I AM a beautiful person, inside and out. So what that I am carrying around a few extra pounds. That's what makes me unique! emoticon

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JANUT57 9/26/2013 8:27AM

  Good advice. Let go and move on ! Being optimistic is much more powerful. emoticon

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PERMSOUL 9/26/2013 8:14AM

    working on this in my world! Thanks my friend! emoticon

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HAPPYMENOW58 9/26/2013 7:45AM

    Very well said! This is definitely a problem for us overeaters.....and is something we NEED to overcome! Pull up your big girl panties and move on!!

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CHERYLHURT 9/26/2013 7:40AM

  This helped!! emoticon

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