Saturday, September 21, 2013
DH and I met with the doctor yesterday and she explained that the catheter needed to stay in another week to let his bladder lining heal from the bad bladder infection. I really questioned her on this as to me it doesn't make sense and I worry about the muscles that tell your body that it is time to urinate will get week. But I am not a doctor so will follow plan. He does have a strap on bag that goes on his leg that he can wear. Something is going on with him as well as he threw up again after breakfast yesterday. Not sure what is going on with that. I think he is still on too many meds. We will see. He was also complaining about pain in his back on the sides which we determined was from his therapy and muscle soreness. I explained this to him and told him he should view it as "good pain" that is telling him he is doing good by exercising those muscles. the doctor told me to get him some cream so I picked it up...it was like Ben Gay. Anyway as I was going out to get in the car the neighbor who visits him everyday(single woman) asked if she could speak to me....she told me she was concerned that he is getting way to used to everyone doing things for him and that he is liking it too much. She said it was none of her business but she cares so much for him that she wants to see him get back his quality of life. My DH and I agreed with her. We see that he lets them do everything for him...things he could be doing himself. Things like standing up and when he walks he lets them hold on to him....it's just not a good thing. So I went outside and called the head nurse and told her what I was seeing and that I really needed her to talk to the nurses and make them make him do things now for himself. I told her we would have the nurses through the week end but they are to let him cook his own meals(just pick something from the freezer and microwave). Anyway I need to stay on top of this and have a talk with him. The head nurse said she was going to get him out of the house today to go shopping and out for lunch. I hope she follows through with that. I was so hoping that after 6 weeks he would be on his own and we could leave town without any problem...now I am worried to leave.
Sorry for the long vent. It's just amazing how different people are. That is one thing I will say for my own Mother, she is almost too much the other way and doesn't want any help...she wants to be so independent.
I am feeling great though and doing fine even with this stress.
I hope you all are doing well too.
Have a great Saturday.