The past few weeks have been pretty rough. I made a REALLY big mistake at work that pretty much shattered my confidence in myself. I stopped meditating and really just let myself go altogether. This morning, my boss took me to coffee and we had a pretty candid talk about how my work has been suffering lately. She was kind and very loving, but also very stern. It was enough to shake me out of my depression and light a fire under me to re-claim my life. I have a lot of work to do to get back to where I once was. But I decided it's time to do a re-set on my life and focus on re-calibrating my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual life.
Physical - I NEED to start eating better and feeding my body with the correct nutrition. I also need to include exercise in my daily life, even if it's just a walk every day.
Mental - I need to forget the mistakes I've made and move forward with fresh confidence.
Emotional - I need to jump this enormous hurtle and forgive myself once and for all for the way I hurt my kids when I got a divorce. Then, I need to drop it and move forward. In addition, I need to see my therapist again. It's been a year since I last saw her and that is just too long.
Spiritually - I need to stop dancing around my beliefs and living in doubt and re-commit my heart to what I KNOW I believe. Thankfully, I have found a wonderful church where I can do this.
It's really very timely that I came across an article in the Huffington Post tonight called "23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing" by Emma Gray.
The article introduction:
"It is conventional wisdom that we’re our own worst enemies and despite the cliche, the idea rings true. We often drive ourselves insane striving for perfection in our experiences, relationships and selves, and honestly it just becomes exhausting. So here at HuffPost Women we’re issuing a challenge to ourselves -- and other women -- to stop doing these 23 things. (Of course it’s all easier said than done, but to employ another cliche, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.)"
I am so impressed by the down to earth and realistic tone of this article. And I thought, much like my happiness experiment, why not work on each of these 23 areas for a week and blog about my progress? That will bring me through the end of the year and into January 2014. I think this is great timing!
23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing
1. Apologizing all the time. Research has shown that women actually do say “sorry” more often than men. We’re all for taking responsibility when you make a mistake -- but constantly apologizing for having your waiter split the check or asking a date to hang out on a different night or telling a friend about your problems, does more harm than good. There’s no need to qualify everything you do. Own your preferences and decisions.
This week, I will work on saying the "S" word less. This is a HUGE one for me (probably why it's #1...it probably is big for a lot of women). I will stop apologizing for who I am.
Who wants to join me?