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Can't get it off my mind...

Thursday, September 19, 2013

There's something that has been weighing on me for the last couple of days. I just can't seem to shake it.

The other day, I didn't hit my 10,000. I got to a little over 8000. I was beat and did lots of running around (so I thought) and when I mentioned it to my husband he said, "Go for a walk, or you're gonna fail." emoticon

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I was kinda just thrown for a loop! I couldn't believe he said that. Gee, thanks for the support dear...

Ugh... All evening and since then, I kept telling myself, 'gotta get that 10.' 'Can't mess up tomorrow.' 'How did I not hit 10,000 today?'

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This is not the mentality I should be having. This is emoticon . This is what will throw me off... and guess what?

I CAUGHT THAT NEGATIVE SELF-TALK!!! emoticon That I feel pretty good about.

Still, I couldn't believe that my husband said that and now all I've been thinking is that it doesn't matter what he said. *I'm* the one busting my butt EVERY DAY. I'm the one who plans the more healthy meals and cooks them. I'm the one who usually suggests a walk or a bike ride. What does HE do???

I now think that it really doesn't matter that I didn't make that 'goal' that ONE day. Every other day I EXCEED it! That doesn't make me a failure. If I quit, if I give up and stop pushing and trying, THAT makes me a failure. But every day is a new day, a new opportunity to move on and shake off what I didn't quite make. Thing is, I ate good. I did walk. I got fresh air. I got my 10 waters that day and I FELT good.

Now, why can't I shake what he said right off? Maybe I need to just tell him that it really bothered me and what *I* think a failure is, because it is NOT ME!!!

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MPETERSON2311 9/20/2013 6:01PM

    "Still, I couldn't believe that my husband said that and now all I've been thinking is that it doesn't matter what he said. *I'm* the one busting my butt EVERY DAY. I'm the one who plans the more healthy meals and cooks them. I'm the one who usually suggests a walk or a bike ride. What does HE do???"

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That was my favorite part of this blog!

I would've told my husband to ABCDEF-off

It's YOUR body. YOUR Sparkplan. You do what makes YOU feel better.

emoticon for not letting him or anyone else (including our own negative self talk) drag you down!

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SARAHST0T 9/20/2013 2:05PM

    Way to go catching that negative self-talk! 8,000+ steps just means you made it 80+ percent of the way to your goal, and that is not failing! You are doing so great and making such healthy choices not only for you, but also for your family! I am so proud of you and you should be of yourself as well! Shame on hubby for not recognizing all the hard work you put in!

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SPARKLISE 9/19/2013 8:40PM

    Yes, do share your feelings with him. He probably doesn't realize how it affected you.

emoticon on the great attitude! You certainly did not "fail"!

Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon

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MARVICBORG 9/19/2013 3:24PM

    So alike my husband he is not so supportive and there where times when he did comments when sometimes I have a binge even when he saw that I was increasing so much my physical activity! He is not into sports at all and eats healthy till dinner because he eats the healthy meals I cook for the whole family then afterwards he eats all types of junk as dessert it's like he binge everyday!
What do they know about counting calories and weighing everything we eat! What do they know about how much we work hard to lose a pound in a week and sometimes lose nothing even and they eat all they want ! They don't know the sacrifice we make! Don't pay attention to what others tell you that's what I have learnt! Don't let anyone lower your self esteem you are a winner not a failure because you are trying and you are capable to succeed! Keep pushing well done! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CLOVER2 9/19/2013 2:55PM

    You do need to let him know. Not that you are angry, just that it has played over and over in your head and that doesn't feel very good. I am sure he absolutely didn't mean that if you didn't make it you are a failure, he's a guy, they don't think like we do.
I have the same problem. I have OCD, so when I get into something I get eyebrow deep into it and feel like I've "failed" if I miss any part of what I am trying to do. This is not true, and I know it. I don't allow "fail" or any form of that word in my vocabulary, because it is never true, I never QUIT. Just don't do as much that particular day. Some days I soar!
You did great! You did all of the things to make that day a strong one, the number of steps is not the be-all and end-all of your success. Your attitude, which is great because yes, you caught the thought process before it could damage you, is what counts!

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