Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Thereís so many books, films, and songs about that inner self riot we all combat everyday. That inability to be able to let somethings or some people go. The fear of loneliness and heartache is a strong emotion. We cry, we crumble, we rage against it, but the singular truth-the hardest pill to swallow, is letting go. There are so many questions. Will it work out? Will I be in pain for forever? You canít run from it though.
In my personal experience with friends, in working the corporate world, and with various lovers, you canít run, you canít hide. These actions hinder and hurt you, you will stay in pain and misery if you are too afraid to take action. So, he isnít coming back or you arenít getting any where at work. You literally can kill yourself with worry and heartache.
I know it seems like the pain is never ending, but with what Iíve seen and felt in my life. All the endless ache, stress, worry and loneliness is not permanent. Iíve lost friendships and boyfriends over lies and betrayal. Iíve lost family members and friends to death. Iíve lost jobs and opportunity to fear and paranoia. But Iím still here.
You might be down and want to act out against the person who hurt you or maybe youíve been down for a while and are trying to get into or back into someones life. Stop. Really think it over. What is the benefit? I mean, I definitely have thought about humiliating the guy who cheated on me or just blowing up at work, storm off like in a movie. It helps to heal you a bit. Like stages of grief we deal with our lifeís issues in layers. Everything cannot be tackled at once and no one can conquer it all in a day.
So, my advice, speaking from personal woe and self enlightenment , donít let yourself be crushed. Itís okay to be down. Down is good, cause then all there is, is up.
Best thing after youíve peeled yourself out of the shadow of gloom and dankness of depression, do something new. Start a hobby or train for a sport.
I myself now know how to knit, took up scrapbooking, jewelry making, trained for a 5k, started like 5 blogs and took up birding to name a few things Iíve tackled after I picked myself up again. Poetry does wonders too! Even if you trash it right after you write it down, it helps! Poetry is like journaling but making it lyrical. All good rock ballads a start somewhere!
Just donít give up. It will pass, you will survive and you can do this!