Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Thank you all for your considerate, thoughtful comments to my mama-drama from yesterday. You want to know the coolest part? It would have been so easy for each of you to just sit back and shake your collective heads in agreement, in support of the anger I felt. You all could have justified me and my evil thoughts. But you didn't! Instead, you tried to show me another way. A way where anger doesn't take over, a way where solution actually exists, a healthy way to go through what I was going through. . . I think they call it "the high road". You all came along and introduced me to the high road! That's what you did. And I think that is awesome! It's so much easier to just get down in the gutter with a friend and roll around in the mud with them. It is! Instead, with a gentle nudge, you pulled me out of the gutter and up the muddy hill. "Come on, Karen, don't do that to yourself. . . come up here with me. . . let's talk about this. . . let's see this for what it really is" . . . that's what I heard you say. The time and effort you took to show me a healthier way, speaks volumes. Thank you. Once again, I reminded of what friendship really looks and feels like.
With mama-drama behind me or at least with me feeling a whole lot better about it, I am grateful that yesterday is over and today is here. A new day. A new opportunity. A new feeling in the air and inside of me. Yep, grateful!
Speaking of "feeling", I have a question. Do you think it's possible to experience a feeling or feelings over an event that has not yet happened. . . that may never happen? Let me give you an example. Christmas 2013 has not happened yet. It might never happen. . . since "tomorrow is not promised." Using nothing more than your mind, do you believe it's possible right now - today - to create real feelings - the exact feelings you'll likely experience on Christmas day. . . assuming Christmas 2013 arrives? Maybe that's not a good example - since we've all experienced Christmas and know from that experience what Christmas feels like. . . good or bad. Maybe a better example would be this. . . assuming you have never won the lottery. . . can you sit here right now and imagine what it would feel like if you actually did win? Can you? I know you can probably pretty easily see the event in your mind's eye, but can you create feelings inside yourself right now . . . the same feelings that would likely emerge if you ever really did win the lottery? If we have never won the lottery, I guess we can't really know what feelings we would have should we do so at some future time. But we can guess and speculate. The question is, can we experience those feelings - right now - without the event actually happening?
I've heard it said that, "we are what we think about". . . and, "we attract things to ourselves with our thoughts". I like to think that I'm that powerful, but I don't know whether I am or not. A friend of mine recently suggested that it isn't enough to merely think about what I want. Instead, she said, I must actually "feel" it happening to me. Only then, will I attract that which I want most.
And I wondered. . .
Is that even possible?
I want to be thin. I can think about being thin all day and all night. Yet, the reality is, I sit here fat. Not thin, but fat. My body ain't jiving with my thoughts.
So maybe my friend is right.
Maybe I have to see myself thin in my mind's eye AND feel thin all at the same time.
But. . .
If I've never been thin. . . how can I feel thin?
How can I know what "thin" feels like?
Happy Wednesday all!