September 18, 2013 - Day 105 - A Life Worth Living - I am Grateful - Day 24
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Thank you all for your considerate, thoughtful comments to my mama-drama from yesterday. You want to know the coolest part? It would have been so easy for each of you to just sit back and shake your collective heads in agreement, in support of the anger I felt. You all could have justified me and my evil thoughts. But you didn't! Instead, you tried to show me another way. A way where anger doesn't take over, a way where solution actually exists, a healthy way to go through what I was going through. . . I think they call it "the high road". You all came along and introduced me to the high road! That's what you did. And I think that is awesome! It's so much easier to just get down in the gutter with a friend and roll around in the mud with them. It is! Instead, with a gentle nudge, you pulled me out of the gutter and up the muddy hill. "Come on, Karen, don't do that to yourself. . . come up here with me. . . let's talk about this. . . let's see this for what it really is" . . . that's what I heard you say. The time and effort you took to show me a healthier way, speaks volumes. Thank you. Once again, I reminded of what friendship really looks and feels like.
With mama-drama behind me or at least with me feeling a whole lot better about it, I am grateful that yesterday is over and today is here. A new day. A new opportunity. A new feeling in the air and inside of me. Yep, grateful!
Speaking of "feeling", I have a question. Do you think it's possible to experience a feeling or feelings over an event that has not yet happened. . . that may never happen? Let me give you an example. Christmas 2013 has not happened yet. It might never happen. . . since "tomorrow is not promised." Using nothing more than your mind, do you believe it's possible right now - today - to create real feelings - the exact feelings you'll likely experience on Christmas day. . . assuming Christmas 2013 arrives? Maybe that's not a good example - since we've all experienced Christmas and know from that experience what Christmas feels like. . . good or bad. Maybe a better example would be this. . . assuming you have never won the lottery. . . can you sit here right now and imagine what it would feel like if you actually did win? Can you? I know you can probably pretty easily see the event in your mind's eye, but can you create feelings inside yourself right now . . . the same feelings that would likely emerge if you ever really did win the lottery? If we have never won the lottery, I guess we can't really know what feelings we would have should we do so at some future time. But we can guess and speculate. The question is, can we experience those feelings - right now - without the event actually happening?
I've heard it said that, "we are what we think about". . . and, "we attract things to ourselves with our thoughts". I like to think that I'm that powerful, but I don't know whether I am or not. A friend of mine recently suggested that it isn't enough to merely think about what I want. Instead, she said, I must actually "feel" it happening to me. Only then, will I attract that which I want most.
And I wondered. . .
Is that even possible?
I want to be thin. I can think about being thin all day and all night. Yet, the reality is, I sit here fat. Not thin, but fat. My body ain't jiving with my thoughts.
So maybe my friend is right.
Maybe I have to see myself thin in my mind's eye AND feel thin all at the same time.
But. . .
If I've never been thin. . . how can I feel thin?
How can I know what "thin" feels like?
Happy Wednesday all!
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I'm not sure Karen, I'll have to think about that.
Seeing is believing and like the saying "actions speak louder than words". I think we can program our mind into making the weight come off. And we all have our different ways that work best for us doing that. we get ourselves into the right mindset,a nd I think that is really important. Because words can be simply words if we keep saying them, without making them happen. We make that happen by listening to our words and mixing them with the actions. And as we go along we make it into a habit, we are reprogramming ourselves to think and therefore behave differently. By doing things like eating an apple, orange, healthy options rather than eating something less healthy like a slice of cake or a handful of biscuits.
I think that when someone loses a lot of weight, they take a little while believing it. They are used to being overweight, and the picture they see in their mind is a fat person. So they need to start believing and seeing themselves is the slim person instead.
It's tricky, because it is our minds that are going to make us get there in the end. Our minds get all excited or whatever about the thought of a packet of salty chippies or biscuits, foods that we love to eat that we should cut down on. I think I am blabbering on now Karen. So , I might not have answered your question, but you got me thinking. My brain loves thinking. When it is given something to think about.
You will get there Karen, you are on your way and doing so well. I am going to get there too.
I will catch up with your other blogs tomorrow. The kids want me to go and watch tv.
I saw this fitness activity, and can honesty say if I did this, I would fall flat on my face. I am way too heavy to do this. But when I am finish I will have no trouble. On that note, have a nice day Karen, and don't forget:::::::
1245 days ago
Yes I can fee things that haven't happened. I often rehearse in my head how I will handle a stressful situation. I can use up a lot of energy. When I lost weight in my 30's, I would stand and look in the bathroom mirror,turn my head to the most flattering angle, suck in my cheeks and squint. i could see myself thin.
And I made it that time and kept it off for about 6 years. When I exercise in the pollI move thin. Hope this helps.
1248 days ago
Oceanmist mentions she will practice in her head how she will deal with Fred on Monday. That I believe you can do. You can visualize situations and come up with the best way through them beforehand. That is a helpful technique. But I don't believe in the law of attraction. That is, if you have the right frame of mind that things will come to you. I think you can think things through along the way, but you can't attract money, etc. with your good vibrations. I think the book, The Secret, is a fraudulent account of how life goes. (I started to read it and was amazed at the gall of the writer.) Good luck to you, Glenn
1248 days ago
I believe in openness. I don't think I can feel what it's like to experience something I've never experienced. But it is important to be open to the possibility of it happening. Be careful not to believe that it "can't" or "won't" happen.
When I started this journey on SP, I could not have believed or counted on the success I have had, but I was open to the experience and willing to try to make the changes that would take me in the right direction.
1249 days ago
I have no idea what it feels like to be thin but I think it will be lighter on my feet, able to bend easier and smaller clothes to fold for starters. It'll be good. New things are always difficult to adjust to. I better start thinking thin right now.
1249 days ago
Karen I understand your thoughts re: Lottery & Christmas thoughts, but I think all of those you can anticipate but to actually have the feeling I'm not 100% sold on that. I believe you can have Euphoria or have a deja vus' type of feeling for what you are going through. I guess my question for those two things is why would you want to think about those types of things since we are not promised tomorrow as you mentioned.
As far as thinking thin and being thin...You are not what you eat, you are what you think!
Unfortunately Most People Program the Subconscious for Failure! ~ Debbie Johnson.
So..are we actually facing failure even before we begin this journey? I don't know. I think a lot of bad habits we have we don't change (for instance mine is doing well breakfast and lunch while I'm at work, than blowing it when I get home)...
You are always full of wisdom young lady. Thank you for making us think! think! think!
1250 days ago
Hi Karen! Your blog yesterday gave me an opportunity too to review my reactions to mean people NOW in my life and to hopefully use my "high road" skills when really, really angry.
What you wrote reminds me of what I do when I don't want to exercise or eat right. I think of the times that I do it anyway and how I feel about it afterwards. But, most of all for me, being a survivor of child abuse, is not to let others around me "bully" me into doing what I don't want to do! I am single and 50 (but look younger), and sometimes older guys flirt with me and I really don't want to go out "for coffee", etc., etc., and yet find myself having a hard time saying no and if I do say no, feel guilty. I will practice in my head how I going to deal with "Fred" on Monday.
1250 days ago
Where do you come up with this stuff, KARENKANDO ?!?
And daily, no less. A very interesting question and I'd have to really think about that one!!
1250 days ago
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