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On feeling like a fraud

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

How nice it is to receive support from the spark community and to be motivator of the day, but it feels like being a fraud based on yesterday's insecurity yack. What really has me twinging was a comment on a recipe that I posted some time back, which I think is pretty good, but the comment said it was brothless chicken soup. So, my insecurity quotient went sky high - go figure. If I wanted, that could be a trigger to eat comfort food -- aaaack, not such a good choice, but then I saw in one of the sparkmails today a pinterest(which I don't do, but lots of folks say they love it) on 75 smiles - and I started smiling again and then I went searching for my motivational quote for the day - here's what I found:

Guides not goals. In this day of internet connectivity and everyone having their opinion(including me), we(in our posts) have the choice to build up or tear down. On the receiving end, we can take the build up or tear down as guides or goals and I'm thinking that taking peoples' comments as guides is a healthy thing; perhaps when the comments become goals we are accepting someone else's path as our own because of my case - not being sure that my own path is such a good one. But, here's the thing, there is only one person who can walk my path - that would be me --- there is only one person who can walk your path - that would be you. I can walk beside you and perhaps hold you up when need be; likewise, you can walk beside me and support me when needed, but we can't walk each other's paths. I am so thankful for the positive and diverse support and perspective offered throughout the sparkpeople community. I'm not a perky cheerleader - but I thoroughly enjoy the energetic, invigorating posts of some team leaders; I do roll my eyes at a lot of posts regarding recipes (now if I could just do that for myself), but that mostly reflects our individuality and tastes for which I need to say hallelujah. I am amazed at the persistence and endurance of some sparkfriends who battle debilitating physical conditions and yet keep on going. Thank you for the honor of coming alongside you and pleasure of your willingness to come alongside me in this journey.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SIMONEKP 9/18/2013 8:35AM

    that's right so take the comments you like and forget the rest, not worth agonizing over, after all, you don't even know the people leaving the comments.

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STONECOT 9/17/2013 4:24PM

    emoticon we are all unique, and have our own life circumstances, and therefore there is no ' one size fits all'! I'm happy to take others opinions, but draw the line at being told that I have to live my life a certain way. So you walk in your shoes, and I'll walk in mine, and hopefully we'll both get the results we want.

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GOING-STRONG 9/17/2013 11:04AM

    I have a LOT of respect for those folks who have physical limitations yet still find ways to exercise and do what they can. It would be so easy to just throw your hands in the air, say "I can't do this" and flop on the couch. I didn't see your recipe but I'm going to check it out. A brothless chicken soup sounds good to me!


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ROCKPORT9 9/17/2013 10:47AM

    Well said! We have so many who are our guides for a moment or much longer, but ultimately we make our own goals. Love it! emoticon hugs, laurel

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SUSANPEI 9/17/2013 8:24AM

    I loved this blog. emoticon

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SUSANWENDORF 9/17/2013 8:07AM

    Hey - you liked your recipe, and were gracious to share. I suggest you try to have any negative comments just drop out of your mind like water off a ducks back! Some people do not realize how their negativity touches the psyche of others. What they said was not kind - and some people are just mean (not sure if they know they're mean, maybe they think they are being helpful).

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SUSANELAINE1956 9/17/2013 8:04AM

    I like your quote. We each need to do what works for us. I like reading what others do and will sometimes give something new a try, but eventually I have to do what is right for me. I now want to read more of your blogs. emoticon

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