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Monday, September 16, 2013

For several years I have been struggling with a blaring TV, Pink Floyd rattling my windows, and a husband who doesn't hear me when I talk to him. Yet, he denies having a hearing loss. Sadly, hearing tests are not included in yearly physicals.

So, when I read that the church up the street was having a health and wellness fair, which included free hearing screenings, I asked my husband to go with me. Surprisingly, he agreed. The results were given to us immediately after the test, which only took 10 minutes at the most.

WELL, his hearing is better than mine. He has been bragging to friends and family all week. emoticon Can you cheat when taking those tests???

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MARTHA-ANN 10/12/2013 12:18PM

    I thought my DH had selected hearing too but we did a telephone hearing test and it turns out he's going deaf in one ear, it's still selective though even when I'm on the right side of him!
Seems to be the higher tones he can't hear

He won't go to see about an hearing aid either, says he can hear alright...everybody but me that is as I apparently!

I find myself repeating things to him and now my son says I'm doing it to other people who aren't deaf....ooops! emoticon

Comment edited on: 10/12/2013 12:20:11 PM

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ZEEDRA 10/12/2013 9:03AM

    Sorry, Knittingnan...You're being drowned out. It's like living with a teenager. Maybe he created this way of living years ago and just never made allowances for good communication with a partner...he doesn't have any incentive to break the habit.

I would vote some couple counselling and I definitely think you should never, ever raise your voice. If he doesn't hear, he doesn't hear.

Being a person who wears hearing aids, I became very upset, at the beginning before my hearing aids, when a few people used that phrase "selective hearing". It's very hurtful. Many people truly can't hear!!!! But, in this case I think it's used in a different sense.

Good luck with it all. And please speak normally, i.e. "Time for dinner!" Then, sit and eat by yourself if he didn't hear and didn't respond. We do become enables by accepting bad behavior.

Just more of my opinions! emoticon

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MCJULIEO 9/25/2013 11:08PM

    I vote for faulty testing equipment, something no one else has come up with.... or human operator error, where they got your and his results mixed up....

It could happen!

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MKELLY72 9/25/2013 4:07PM

    I would probably vote on the selective hearing boat here. Maybe it's just his choice for tuning out the rest of the world for a while. I guess we all need that every day, but the loud tv--when it's not my own, and I'm not alone and free to have it loud (radio included) without bothering others--would totally get on my nerves too. My BF always has to turn the tv on(if it's not already) when we sit down to eat--i haven't had the nerve to say straight out that I would prefer he leave it off yet tho--something I need to work on.
Good luck getting him to turn it down--no excuses anymore :)

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TREV1964 9/18/2013 5:43AM

    I personally think that blokes hear what they choose to hear. To an extent we are all a bit guilty of that one.

A television that is on so loud that you have to considerably raise your voice when talking to somebody across a room can potentially damage your hearing if left on for long periods of time. The 90 dB level is not as loud as many people think and many sustain damage without realising it.



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WATERDIAMONDS 9/18/2013 5:28AM

    Well, if his hearing is better than yours, NOW what is his excuse for not listening to you???????

Even more importantly, how far is he willing to go to protect the hearing you still have? Going to turn down that TV now? Going to lower the volume on the Pink Floyd? Of course he is!

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DR1939 9/17/2013 8:43AM

    That's too funny. I don't think you can cheat for better hearing. You can, of course, for poorer.

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NELLJONES 9/17/2013 8:14AM

    I have the same problem with my husband. He says we really ARE mumbling, even though he is the only one who needs everything repeated SLOWLY so he can separate the words. I hate having to say everything 2 or 3 times.

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PUDDLE13 9/17/2013 4:00AM

    Well at least you know he has no excuse not to listen to you now! Members of my family have selective deafness too - usually when I need something!

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DWROBERGE 9/17/2013 3:54AM

    Souonds like a personal problem. Can not deal with this.

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LATTELEE 9/17/2013 12:21AM

  Oh no!

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ALICIA214 9/17/2013 12:20AM


Well at least you wont have to yell to make yourself heard , and you wont be in danger of having your ear drums punctured, how quiet and peaceful your home must be now.!


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2DAWN4 9/17/2013 12:13AM

    So does he has selective hearing? Many of my family members struggle with SH!

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