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Monday, September 16, 2013

For several years I have been struggling with a blaring TV, Pink Floyd rattling my windows, and a husband who doesn't hear me when I talk to him. Yet, he denies having a hearing loss. Sadly, hearing tests are not included in yearly physicals.

So, when I read that the church up the street was having a health and wellness fair, which included free hearing screenings, I asked my husband to go with me. Surprisingly, he agreed. The results were given to us immediately after the test, which only took 10 minutes at the most.

WELL, his hearing is better than mine. He has been bragging to friends and family all week. emoticon Can you cheat when taking those tests???
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    I thought my DH had selected hearing too but we did a telephone hearing test and it turns out he's going deaf in one ear, it's still selective though even when I'm on the right side of him!
    Seems to be the higher tones he can't hear

    He won't go to see about an hearing aid either, says he can hear alright...everybody but me that is as I apparently!

    I find myself repeating things to him and now my son says I'm doing it to other people who aren't deaf....ooops! emoticon
    1290 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/12/2013 12:20:11 PM
    Sorry, Knittingnan...You're being drowned out. It's like living with a teenager. Maybe he created this way of living years ago and just never made allowances for good communication with a partner...he doesn't have any incentive to break the habit.

    I would vote some couple counselling and I definitely think you should never, ever raise your voice. If he doesn't hear, he doesn't hear.

    Being a person who wears hearing aids, I became very upset, at the beginning before my hearing aids, when a few people used that phrase "selective hearing". It's very hurtful. Many people truly can't hear!!!! But, in this case I think it's used in a different sense.

    Good luck with it all. And please speak normally, i.e. "Time for dinner!" Then, sit and eat by yourself if he didn't hear and didn't respond. We do become enables by accepting bad behavior.

    Just more of my opinions! emoticon
    1290 days ago
    I vote for faulty testing equipment, something no one else has come up with.... or human operator error, where they got your and his results mixed up....

    It could happen!
    1306 days ago
  • MKELLY72
    I would probably vote on the selective hearing boat here. Maybe it's just his choice for tuning out the rest of the world for a while. I guess we all need that every day, but the loud tv--when it's not my own, and I'm not alone and free to have it loud (radio included) without bothering others--would totally get on my nerves too. My BF always has to turn the tv on(if it's not already) when we sit down to eat--i haven't had the nerve to say straight out that I would prefer he leave it off yet tho--something I need to work on.
    Good luck getting him to turn it down--no excuses anymore :)
    1307 days ago
  • TREV1964
    I personally think that blokes hear what they choose to hear. To an extent we are all a bit guilty of that one.

    A television that is on so loud that you have to considerably raise your voice when talking to somebody across a room can potentially damage your hearing if left on for long periods of time. The 90 dB level is not as loud as many people think and many sustain damage without realising it.


    1314 days ago
    Well, if his hearing is better than yours, NOW what is his excuse for not listening to you???????

    Even more importantly, how far is he willing to go to protect the hearing you still have? Going to turn down that TV now? Going to lower the volume on the Pink Floyd? Of course he is!

    1314 days ago
  • DR1939
    That's too funny. I don't think you can cheat for better hearing. You can, of course, for poorer.
    1315 days ago
    I have the same problem with my husband. He says we really ARE mumbling, even though he is the only one who needs everything repeated SLOWLY so he can separate the words. I hate having to say everything 2 or 3 times.
    1315 days ago
  • PUDDLE13
    Well at least you know he has no excuse not to listen to you now! Members of my family have selective deafness too - usually when I need something!
    1315 days ago
    Souonds like a personal problem. Can not deal with this.
    1315 days ago
    Oh no!
    1315 days ago
  • ALICIA214

    Well at least you wont have to yell to make yourself heard , and you wont be in danger of having your ear drums punctured, how quiet and peaceful your home must be now.!

    1315 days ago
  • 2DAWN4
    So does he has selective hearing? Many of my family members struggle with SH!
    1315 days ago
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