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Out of Touch for a Bit -- Miss You Dad

Monday, September 16, 2013

I have been unable to Spark for a while because I was at my parents' house for a couple of weeks and they have zero internet/cable/cell phone accessibility.

I was helping my mom take care of my dad and unfortunately he passed away last Tuesday. I am still in shock over it. He collapsed at home and when he got to the ER, mom and dad were told that he had cancer in both lungs and the bladder and there was nothing they could do for him. We got Hospice right away and they were so wonderful. We also found out from them that my dad had cancer pretty much all over. He must have been in agony for a long time before we even knew it, but he was one tough customer. He had been losing weight for a while and didn't eat much, but he was still getting up and doing things until about a week before he collapsed. Anyway, the whole process took only a couple of weeks and then he was just gone.

He and my mom were together for over 60 years, so it is going to be a long rough road for her. I do not live as close as I would like to, but this is where my job is. I don't think there is any way I can get her to move closer to me so I can help out more. It's too soon to think about those things anyway, but I can't help it.

I still can't process it and I feel like a zombie. Today is my first day back at work since it happened and I can't seem to concentrate on anything.

Things like this sure give a person a different perspective on things.

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ILOVEMALI 10/9/2013 11:32PM

    Checking in. Hope that you are doing better.

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MOMOF2TONI 9/17/2013 6:20AM

    So sorry for your loss. I went through almost the same thing with my dad. He's been gone now for several years. Sure do miss him.

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OKBACK2ME 9/16/2013 11:39PM

    emoticon He will always be in your heart!

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NHES220 9/16/2013 7:50PM

    So sorry for your loss, keeping you and your mother in my prayers.

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ADARKARA 9/16/2013 7:14PM

    emoticon I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad suddenly last year.

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ILOVEMALI 9/16/2013 3:32PM

    I am so sorry to see this. I understand exactly how you feel. It's been almost a year since my dad passed, and I'm still sad. Please give yourself the time to grieve. I am so busy that, when Dad died, I threw myself into my work and life so that I didn't have to think about it. Well, that hasn't worked for me. I haven't grieved properly.

You will miss him every day. I guess that this is actually a blessing, when you think about it -- what a wonderful man he must have been.

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ANNIE924 9/16/2013 3:26PM

    I first want to say I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure your mom appreciates all you have done for you and that you will continue to do for her.

Take care and remember the good times.


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BAMAJAM 9/16/2013 3:23PM

  I am so very sorry for your loss. The death of a beloved family member does give life a different perspective. I hope that you have comfort from others during this difficult time, and I hope that your mom receives concern and kindness as well----Bless you.

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