Monday, September 16, 2013
I was with a group of friends yesterday who I call "my very spiritual women friends."
While some of these friends may follow organized religions, they mostly consider themselves more spiritual than religious. This means they generally do not feel they need a third party to have a rich and fulfilling relationship with God/Source/Creator. They themselves believe they have the power to connect directly.
Back to my story...
While we were chatting we got on the topic of kindness to self and they made some very interesting observations I wanted to share with you.
They said that many of us women (men too sometimes, but especially women) can be very hard on ourselves--very self-critical!
They said our inner "monkey mind" sometimes chatters to us things like...
"I am not good enough"
"If I only worked harder, I would lose more weight"
"If I was really serious about this, I'd exercise more."
"I am lazy"
"I am meant to be fat."
This is what my spiritual friends would say...
We are souls in bodies (not bodies with a soul). Our souls came to earth--the realm of material things--to do important work. Sometimes in this world of earthly delights, it is easy to get off track or feel that we have--especially with these bodies our souls chose to occupy.
The key, they would say, is to be kind and understanding with ourselves.
Sometimes we may find it easier to be kind to others, and not to ourselves. When this happens, we need to be remember self-empathy.
So we may have fallen off the food wagon.... it is ok.
We are just imperfect humans. We simply need to get back on track and keep on keeping on.
So we may not have exercised as intensely or much as we aimed to....it is ok.
We are simply human. Tomorrow is another day and if we put our mind, body and spirit to it we will succeed.
So we may not be losing weight as we hoped and planned...it is ok. Weight is not the only measure of our success and when the time is right the weight will come off. We just need to keep on keeping on and be kind to ourselves on this journey.
Being kind to ourselves--not just being kind to others-- is so very important.
If you find yourself being hard or critical or judgmental about yourself--STOP.
Instead, take a deep breath (or two or three) and then step back and look at the big picture.
Be kind and give yourself self-empathy. Then commit to keep on keeping on and find a way to get yourself back on track.