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My Daughter Pointed Out Something

Monday, September 16, 2013

My daughter and I were texting each other this morning. Someone in my past who I had a relationship with is trying to re-enter my life. He was very controlling during our relationship and that was a major point in my decision not to continue it. My daughter pointed out that it sounds to her that he's trying to do it again. I tend to fall back into a codependency mode on occasion and don't need to do it again. It was a wake up call for me. I have tried very hard to overcome this. I am glad that I am aware of it now. I am doing research again. I will take notes on my research and journal about it. I will see my therapist this week and will definitely discuss this with her. I believe this is a perfect time for me to be taking that "Exploring Your Spiritual Journey" class. It's already got me taking stock and I think it will help give me some direction on this.
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    Sounds like a super daughter emoticon
    1582 days ago
    Way to go!
    1583 days ago
    Families can be so supportive! emoticon
    1583 days ago
    Knowing ourselves is the first step. You will find your way with gods help. emoticon
    1583 days ago
    Nice to have your dd supporting and "pointing out things" to you... I should have been listening when my dd's and friends were telling me things!

    When are you going on trip? First, I thought you meant you were coming down to Halifax....oh darn!!

    I was watching a show last nite where they were discussing PTSD and saying not sleeping and trying to keep so busy that you can't face things is also a way some people deal with PTSD... think I'm one!!!! I mean, I KNOW IT!!!

    1583 days ago
    Keep Strong! emoticon
    1583 days ago
    I love this blog post. I know for me that I have to practice new skills, until I get good at them, and then may have to practice some more if I am feeling especially vulnerable (or wishy-washy, which I sometimes feel--haha) for some reason to be sure that I am in touch with and do what I want. Having a voice, saying no, wasn't allowed in my childhood. It has taken inner work to not fear or want to please others so much (that I do what they want). Much continued growth in your journey! emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 9/16/2013 2:14:29 PM
    Also, I read the book, "Codependent no more" by Beaty and what a powerful book! I felt as if she was describing me! emoticon

    It is interesting that you are sharing this because today a guy where I volunteer asked me out for coffee and I said yes even though I don't want to go! I couldn't say no BUT when he asked me for my phone number, I said no. So, I am somewhat in between. Your daughter sounds like a very wise young woman and I am glad she is there for you. God bless you both and wish me luck to say no to coffee with a guy I don't want to date. emoticon

    Love, Chelsea
    1583 days ago
    Co-dependency is a really hard habit to break. I hope you can get some good insight from your therapist, and it sounds like the class would be great also. Good luck with figuring out what's best for you!

    1583 days ago
    Aren't daughters wonderful? It sounds like you are stronger now than you were before. emoticon
    1583 days ago
    Glad you can recognize the problems in the situation! Stay strong!

    Have a great week!
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    Good luck
    1583 days ago
    Good luck
    1583 days ago
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