Friday, September 13, 2013
Every day I read one of your success stories or blogs, or I watch a video. Always I am amazed at the journey you have all taken. You've met up with challenges and conquered them, you've had successes, you've had to back track. As much as your successes inspire me, I pay particular attention to the hurdles you've overcome.
All of us will have mishaps: we'll relapse into old(bad) habits and regain some of our weight. Before I joined Spark People I used to be really hard on myself for that, I mean crazy hard. It's not that I'm a perfectionist or think that everything should come easy to me. Trust me, I have almost no natural talent at anything - I have to work!!!!!!! It's just that I used to figure that once I have the knowledge and established the behaviours I ought to be done. I mean either you know it or you don't! Spark People's success stories and blogs have normalized that behaviour for me. I accept that any learned behaviour can be unlearned: it's a cycle of ongoing checks and balances. Now I'm okay with that but it used to not sit well.
Of course i don't throw in the towel bc it's "all part of the process". Not at all. You have all taught me perserverence and tenacity. I tell my kids that courage isn't not being afraid, courage is being afraid but overcoming that fear. You can't be brave without fear. Now I see that perserverence and tenacity are the same. You can't learn perserverence or tenacity without setbacks. Both are sticking to it in the face of adversity, learning to overcome those hurdles. Look, hurdles are hurdles and I'll never say thank god I ate that pizza bc now I have perserverance. However, I now accept that I will occasionally blunder and that I have the perserverance and tenacity to get back to my program. The SP process teaches inner strength and that isn't about never messing up: it's about reigning things in when you do stray and staying the course for the long haul.
Soooo... congratulations to all of you have shared your success stories and your struggles with all of us. Thank you for being the light that guides me in the journey to reach my goals. Your journey has become part of my journey.