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Thursday, September 12, 2013

I am experiencing a flurry of negative thoughts. How do you control these destructive emotions, how do you blow out the negative fuse. I paint the future with a black brush, i have a difficult time seeing joy in the future. Since negative thoughts are simply just as pattern of thinking how do we go about changing these destructive forces to a positive a real picture of the unknown future.

I find jotting down my thoughts as i have done in this blog takes a bite out of the fear of tomorrow and assists me my battle

The battle for peace of mind is a daily task emoticon

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ANGORA4 9/14/2013 12:40AM

    I agree, writing things down really seems to help.

How to change negative thoughts? I use Philippians 4:8 as a guide:
"Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. "

That means that I surround myself with as many positive things as I can. I can't change negative family members, but I can offset them by filling the rest of my time with positive things. Uplifting music with positive lyrics (may require a station change or switch CDs), books and movies with a positive message, or just plain fun. Things that make you laugh. People that brighten your day. Things that make you smile.

Sometimes, our homes are cluttered with stuff that we don't really like all that much. I like FlyLady's idea of decluttering the stuff we don't care about, and replacing the so-so stuff with stuff that makes us smile. Maybe we'll clean off the table and put a vase of fragrant fresh flowers on it, or replace a maze of pillows with a few well-chosen ones in a design we really like, a color that really zings and makes us smile.

We often forget the effect of color on our life. Somber, dark colors can help put us in a dark mood. Bright colors, favorite colors, can help enliven things.

What about your clothes? Are you just stuffing on whatever's handy? Sometimes, taking time to put on clothes that make us feel good, clothes we like, can make a difference. We don't feel like dressing up, but sometimes dressing up can make you feel pretty, better.

Positive moods require some thought, some pre-planning, some effort. It means looking at what you're feeding your body emotionally, and making some changes. Are you listening to people who are always complaining? It's contagious, highly contagious. Unhappy people can share that unsatisfaction with you, it's easy to pick up the complaints. If you're surrounded by complainers, you'll need to work extra hard to find some positive things to help counteract that. Perhaps positive old TV shows on DVD, or movies, great music, and fun diversions (even if as caregivers they have to be indulged in 5 minute blocks of time. I learned to like Sudoku, puzzles, pencil drawing (a lot less materials and fuss), lap quilting (portable and easy to pick up and put down).

You need things that bring a smile, and it may take time to find them. At first, nothing's fun, nothing's interesting. It takes quite a bit of practice trying new things (or picking up old ones) to start finding pleasure in them again. Keep looking for the spark, something that sparks your interest. Old funny movies, Erma Bombeck books, beautifully colored fabric, whatever makes you feel alive again.

Don't give up, it can be hard at first, and slow going. But don't give up, you're worth the effort. You are worth finding yourself again.

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RSHAID 9/12/2013 4:27PM

    Try writing down a few things you are grateful for.

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PATTYKLAVER 9/12/2013 7:35AM

    I take a walk when I'm feeling negative like that. After that, I get my journal out. I write down the negatives. I write down things I want to do- having something to look forward to helps. And each day, I write down at least 3 things that I am thankful for.

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EMMACORY 9/12/2013 1:39AM

    Writing is good as you mentioned. Talking with a good friend can help shift the energy. Perhaps looking through Spark' s motivational quotes would help too. Blessings! emoticon

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