Wednesday, September 11, 2013
I have a problem. Well, I have lots of problems, but here is the current issue: I canít stand it when my boyfriend looks at other women. Even if itís a fleeting glance, it still upsets me. He is a good guy and he doesnít just stare at other women in front of me, but there are boobs and legs and butt cheeks everywhere, and Iím positive that he sees them and likes what he sees. When we are out in public, I try not to even look at him so I donít see when he looks at other people, especially women. When I do see him look, I hate him. I hate him and I am disgusted by him, but not nearly as disgusted as I am with myself. I donít know how to deal with this. I have spoken with him a few times about my feelings and Iíve told him how intense they have been. He has been kind to me and tried to understand, and says that we can work on it together. However, I feel absolutely horrified and insanely jealous when he glances at another woman so I need to get this under control.
Let me just say that I donít think I am afraid of him leaving me for one of the women he looks at, so saying ďbut he comes home to you,Ē isnít helpful. My thoughts about it may not exactly be logical, but I do realize that heís not trying to leave me for every woman he sees. I just really need help with this. Iím seeing a therapist and Iím going to talk to her about it tomorrow, but I am really torn up about this tonight. Any advice would be welcome.
I posted this last night and got some good feedback but I wanted to post it today so that more people could see and respond. I really do need help so thank you in advance for your advice!