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I got in to the Man's pants this weekend...

Monday, September 09, 2013

Good morning, Sparksters!

This is gonna be long, but I’m goin’ all girly and gushing and happy dancin’ this morning. The Man is already tired of hearing it, so I’m just gonna throw it all out there with you all…

Let me start with pointing out that I loathe shopping… It doesn’t really matter what for, the problem is that shopping involves stores, and stores involve crowds of people (especially on weekends), and, well, just not my thing, ya know?

The other thing I want to mention is that I have never in my life been the same size or smaller than my partner. I've always been obese (well, overweight now), but have always been with slim and fit men.

Now, I’m currently on disability and don’t go out much, so have been just wearing the clothes that I’ve had for years. I had gone through the closet and gave away everything that fell off as I put it on, so I’m down to just a few basics. These are also too big, but I can at least keep them on with a belt. Since I’m not having to present a professional appearance (the trees really don’t care what I look like when I’m tramping the back-country), I’ve been going with the idea that I could wait ‘til January or so before I would absolutely have to pick up a couple of more basics to get me through until I get down to the weight I want to stay at (somewhere in the healthy range – we’ll see when I get there). I’ve got some vague idea in my head that I should get there some time next summer or so. My plan is to avoid shopping as long as humanly possible.

Besides, I look in the mirror and don’t look all THAT much smaller. Sure, the clothes are a bit big on me, but no big deal, right? If I wash everything in hot, and put in the dryer on high, then surely I can shrink them down that little bit…

So, last week the Man decided that it was time to go in search of new dinnerware. A plate broke and another bowl chipped on my 30-year-old stoneware, and he decreed that it was time to replace them. We spent a few days searching on line, but since the feel is important to both of us, it is required to actually set foot in some stores and check them out in person.

Well, I put on my freshly dried 36 waist jeans on Saturday (with belt to hold them on), and off we went to hit some stores for dinnerware. While we were out, I discovered to my horror that I wouldn’t be able to wait ‘til January for new pants, since even with the belt, I was still pretty much having to hold the jeans on. The Man also wears a 36 waist jeans (he likes to have enough room inside to park a moving truck in with him if required), but mentioned that he had some 34’s at home that he doesn’t like to wear (there’s only enough extra room for a pick-up truck --- apparently that’s not practical for him). Well – no luck on finding dinnerware, but we got home and I tried on his 34’s – JACKPOT! I now have jeans to wear at least until January! Not only that, but I was actually wearing pants a size smaller than my partner! emoticon (I'm just going to ignore the fact that he could fit in to a 32 - but they wouldn't be baggy enough to keep him happy.)

So, Sunday comes along and we’re off to check out even more stores for dinnerware. Naturally, all of the stores are in huge, busy malls, which is enough to give me the screaming horrors. Oooh, but the Man knows me well… We’d hit a couple of stores with no luck, and I was starting to lose it because of the crowds, so he aimed me to the one place he knew I’d be happy: the leather store. OK, I admit it: I have a HUGE thing for leather. I could just stand in there and smell it all day. The store we were in only goes up to XL in their jackets, and their women’s jackets are all fitted, so I naturally gravitated to the purses and boots since there’s never been anything in there that I could wear. They do have other locations that have a minor selection of larger sizes, but not in this particular store. The Man, however, navigated me over to the jackets, knowing what style would catch my eye (we have the same taste in clothing for me), and started shuffling through the sizes. He pulled out the largest, which was a Large (not even an XL), grabbed my purse, and raised an eyebrow at me… Well, I can’t argue with the eyebrow, so I tried it on…

It. FIT.

Not a squeeze, no sucking in the belly to do it up, could easily move my arms, no pulling in the shoulders. It. Just. FIT.

And hot damn – did I look good in it!

I've always been able to pull off "statuesque" (tall and hourglass). I easily could do "professional". I could even pull off "elegant". What I could NEVER pull off is "cute". This jacket --- I looked CUTE! I didn't think that could EVER be a possibility for me!

No – I didn’t buy it. There’s no way that I could justify spending that kind of cash on something that I will hopefully be too small for in a couple of months. It did, however, leave me so happily astounded (It FIT) that I just sailed through the rest of the day in the mall. I was in so much shock that it didn't even bother me that we didn't find any dinnerware and that I'll have to go in even more stores this week.

The Man ROCKS! We got in the truck to leave the mall, and he looked over at me and said “Did ya hear?! The Large fits! Next time it’ll be the Medium, you know…”

So – I’m girly, and gushing, and astonished that there has been far more of a change to my body than I was seeing. I can’t say that I’m looking forward to the rest of the clothes shopping, but you all KNOW that I’ll be in that leather store next spring before I go anywhere else!

Wishing you all happy surprises when you hit the stores!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MSHEL7 3/7/2014 3:30PM

    Just had to come back and comment on this one again. So, you got the leather jacket and just what size did you get? emoticon Way to go friend!!

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    I loved your story, so inspiring and funny! And I have the same kind of husband that loves the baggy jeans with extra room and I won't even mention his boxers... Thanks for the smile you gave me today :)

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SHEL_V2 9/28/2013 7:13PM

    Love this post. I don't much like to shop, but it's certainly been improved by the weight loss and the availability of clothes that fit. I have to buy "in process" clothes, because I'm not just out in the woods. My hubby also likes his pants ridiculously big, but with both of us eating low carb he's dropped from a 40 to a 36. He'd ordered a pair of 38's and they kept falling off.

I'm also tall, and about to shed some size 10 pants (might have some 12's in the goodwill pile). I'd be happy to send some to you. Drop me a mail if you're interested!


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MRSBUDRYZER 9/14/2013 7:45AM

    Fantastic!! Your blog just made me smile! Awesome, just awesome!

Your man is will need that jacket in a medium!!!!
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Oh, and I too, did the happy dance when I fit into my husband's size 32 waist Army fatigues...I came running downstairs screaming, they're loose, they're loose!!!! lol

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UNSWEETMAMA 9/12/2013 1:00PM

    I agree with everyone else here, THAT IS AWESOME!
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TIGER_LILY_613 9/10/2013 12:02PM

    What an awesome experience ! Good for you !

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MSHEL7 9/10/2013 10:57AM

    This is such an awesome blog. I am so happy for you and can hear the gushing in your voice. Don't you love it when the Man is right. They can say such great things to us and know us so well don't they? Can't wait to see your blog next spring when you have bought that leather jacket. Good luck to you!!

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MATTEROFHEART 9/10/2013 10:33AM

    How awesome is this!?!!!!! I love it! I have to admit the title caught my eye - lol!!! That was a huge moment for me too when I finally weighed less than my husband! I don't think I could actually get into his pants yet, but I feel good just knowing I weigh less than him!

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NANCIER 9/9/2013 8:40PM

    Yow! Amazing how fun just trying stuff on can be, huh? (and who'd ever think it would be!?) And to go from not thinking that jacket would fit to realizing that though it fits now, it won't fit soon - well, that's plum exciting. Here's to more girly, gushy moments. emoticon

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BLUSHIOUS 9/9/2013 5:41PM

    This is awesome and I could feel it for you. How wonderful!!

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MOM2ACAT 9/9/2013 5:15PM

    That is awesome! Even if you didn't buy it, you had a great feeling from trying it on.

I hear you on shopping and crowds! I use to work in retail, and I hated working weekends the most because of the crowds. I try to avoid as much as possible shopping on the weekends. I like shopping weekday mornings the best, but since I now usually have to rely on others when I want to go somewhere, I have to go when they can take me. Fortunately, I'm able to still avoid the weekends.

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