Your mind- friend or enemy?
Monday, September 09, 2013
Today I'll "deviate" from my "fun and interesting" items I usually post to try and give folks a smile for their day.
I read another blog by Cybershell that made me think a bit. It was a good blog and I'd like to add my "2 cents worth" to her thoughts.
Your senses do make a difference to how you perceive things, but even more so is what your mind can do.
I teach piano lessons and one of the things I've learned is I do not allow my students to say (or think) "that looks hard". I know most of their songs backwards and forwards after 30 yrs. of teaching and I know which are "hard" and which are "easy". They can fool you. One may look hard and actually be easy, and vice versa. I learned years ago the minute I allowed a child to think a song was hard, even tho an easy song they had difficulty with it! Now the minute they say anything along those lines I remind them of the "rule". Not allowed to think that way. They often have experienced that same thing, a song looks hard, then turns out to be easy, so they know what I am telling them. It makes a huge difference.
Now, why (you may be asking) am I telling you this? Because the same thing applies throughout life. If we perceive that something will be hard for us, we automatically make it difficult! But if we can make ourselves approach things with an open mind we will find we can do things that may surprise us. Our minds are wonderous things, but they can also be our enemies if we let them. If you let a child (or yourself) look at a new food and think "I am not going to like this", already you have set yourself up to not like it. I was a tough mom, my kids were not allowed to say "I don't like that". I'd seen too many rude children (and even adults) at my table and I didn't want my kids to do that at other people's houses. So, the rule was, you say that, you get another spoonful. They learned not to say that, and to eat what was there. Now they both like nearly everything and like to try new things. I was not unreasonable- I didn't give them things like raw onions, or hot, spicy foods, etc. I'm talking about things like broccoli and brussel sprouts. Yes, we LOVE brussel sprouts. It's one of our favs! We sometimes have it as a treat for Christmas!
If you have issues with new foods, or trying a new exercise, or whatever it may be, try going to it with a new outlook. You might be surprised.
Good luck, Sparkie friends.