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Stop Playing The Numbers Game...


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Monday, September 09, 2013

This blog is for everyone, but it's especially for those on this journey with me that have a LOT of weight to lose. emoticon worrying about how long it might take to get this weight off, stop stressing over the numbers and how many pounds you have to lose each month to get there in a certain amount of time. When we have a loooooong way to go on this journey, it can get so overwhelming to know that it could take months or even years to get all of this weight off... but it'll be worth it in the end!



Every time I started a weight loss journey (and that is TONS of times over my 27 years), the first thing I'd do is crunch the numbers. Well I want to lose XXX amount of weight... so if I lose 2 pounds a week for XX amount of time, I will be to my goal by XX/XX/XX. But wait, what if I lose 3 pounds a week, and oh add in the fact I'll probably lose 5 the first week, so when can I get to my goal? emoticon How long it took was already overwhelming, but what was even worse is doing the math to figure out how to get a calorie deficit for 3 pounds a week. It usually resulted in "OMG, I'd have to eat 1200 calories AND burn over 1000 calories a day to get that deficit, I can't do that so I might as well give up!" emoticon *Cut to me, in the Jack In The Box Drive Thru, ordering enough food for 2-3 people.* emoticon

Now don't get me wrong, a huge part of goal setting is to put a time frame on it... and I understand why. Saying you will do it "someday" isn't good enough... but for me time specific goals didn't work. I wanted to be 199 by the end of 2012 and I didn't hit that milestone until July of this year. When I didn't get it by 12/31/12 I was devastated. I had to really rethink my journey and realize that weight loss isn't a simple lose 2 pounds every week kind of thing... we have to learn to adapt and change... and roll with the punches.



So be honest, when I tell you I've lost 80 pounds so far, what is your first thought? If it's not your first, it's at least your second, and that's "I wonder how long it took her!" Well I am here to tell you that it was not any steady consistent weight loss. There were plateaus and gains and all sorts of twists and turns along the way. I'm going to show you what my journey has looked like.

My highest weight was 272, I lost 10 pounds before starting my (3rd) journey on Spark People in March of 2012. I weighed weekly (more or less), but I will spare you and show it more as a monthly recap.

March 20, 2012: 262 (-10 from highest)
April 11, 2012: 256 (-6)
May 2, 2012: 252 (-4)
June 8, 2012: 246.8 (-5.2)
July 6, 2012: 239.4 (-7.4)
August 17, 2012: 230 (-9.4)
September 10, 2012: 227 (-3)
October 10, 2012: 218.8 (-8.2)
November 29, 2012: 214 (-4.8)
emoticon So this is where things get dicey... I hit a huge plateau, regained some weight, and genuinely had a hard time for a long time.
December 6, 2012: 212 (-2)
December 26, 2012: 212.4(+.4)
January 8, 213: 216.8 (+4.4)
February 13, 2013: 211.4 (-5.4)
March 6, 2013: 210 (-1.4)
April 8, 2013: 215 (+5)
May 8, 2013: 215.4 (+.4)
June 15, 2013: 211.6 (-3.8)
July 8, 2013: 204.4 (-7.2)
August 8, 2013: 195.2 (-9.2)
September 4, 2013: 191.8 (-3.4)
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So if you haven't learned anything from this blog emoticon, and you are still doing the math, that is 70 pounds lost in 18 months, which is just under 4 pounds a month on average. That is not outstanding by any means, but it's proof that if you are consistent it will all add up in the end! There are two ways to look at my journey... One way is to look at all the time I wasted! If I had done a better job I would have already been to my goal by now. But the new me looks at it like this: I have been on this journey for 18 months, have a total weight loss of 80 pounds, I have never given up. There are many times where I gained weight back, lost the same weight over again, or been super stuck for weeks at a time. There were weeks I didn't exercise, weeks I ate everything in sight... but I never once threw in the towel. In all my previous attempts I never lasted more than 6 months or 40 pounds lost, so I have definitely changed in so many ways! I learned so much from plateaus and regaining some of the weight back, and I am stronger because of it! emoticon So the next time you want to be upset you only lost 1 pound, or you think this is just taking too long, remember to keep your eye on the emoticon, stay consistent, pick yourself back up when you fall down, and remember it will all add up in the end! We will get there when we get there! emoticon Just stay focused and put in the work and you can get to wherever you want to go! emoticon emoticon emoticon
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GOIN4GR8 9/15/2013 11:13PM

    THANK YOU for the picture of how people think you lost weight and how you REALLY did it (the one that looks like spaghetti--mmmm, spaghetti!--whoops!) ;-) emoticon

Tonight is the first time I've overeaten in about 40 days. And reading this tells me to just get right up tomorrow a.m. and start again like nothing ever happened. And I WILL!!!



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ISAYWHIPIT 9/15/2013 7:13AM

    You got it down, girl! Thanks for the pep talk. My goal is to exercise today. I have stopped weighing because it is to much of an emotional rollercoaster. Doesn't matter how long it takes to get there but if I stay the course it will take less time than if I hadn't started to change. emoticon

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BIGFAMILY9 9/15/2013 2:54AM

    Some times I feel like I've failed when I haven't lost my weight like all the success stories seem to. Nice to know that neither did they! emoticon

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TRANSFORMWE 9/13/2013 1:58PM

    Very motivating. It really does help to hear from another who has been there. I lost 37 pounds on Sparkpeople 2+ years ago. Then I had multiple setbacks and gained it all back. I had a wakeup call a few weeks ago and I am back on track, following my plan and getting my fiteness minutes in most days. The scale is slowly starting to yield to my efforts. It will if I am consistent.
What I need to remember and re-learn every so often is that consistency does not require perfection. The more tolerant I can be of my human tendency to mess it up from time to time, the quicker I can get back on track when I do, and the less impact each slip up will have.
Great work! Thank you for sharing.

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KIN59VARA 9/13/2013 5:36AM

    Thanks so much I am having such a hard time lately and I have regained what I lost. YUCK

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HOPE-IN-MOTION 9/12/2013 4:13PM

    I am very grateful to read this today. Just starting to get going. Thank you for the reality check.
I have been as high as 234, made it to 171, and am now 213ish. It works if we work it, huh!



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MKATE99 9/12/2013 1:43PM

    This is SO helpful to me. I too play the numbers game and it doesn't help me one bit. Your message is a good reminder to just take it one day at a time, one step at a time and not focus on trying to lose 100 lbs. It'll only happen a pound at a time. Thanks!

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BETHIEBOOPS 9/12/2013 1:04PM

    You inspire me so much! We started at the same time- with just a few pounds between us! I get sad thinking that I sacrificed one goal for another (not that I'd trade the babe for a skinnier tushie) but you are right! It's a journey and I'll get there eventually!

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FLMOMX2 9/12/2013 10:29AM

    emoticon Such an encouragement since I was a bit depressed that I was at only about .5 lbs per week

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NEWTINK 9/11/2013 4:19PM

    Very good progress. I never shoot more than a pound a week and it has brought me to 110 pounds gone. when you just remember to do what you can when you can then you get there maybe not fast but eventually you get there. emoticon

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OAKASHANDTHORN 9/11/2013 1:56PM

    Your advice is so timely!

I NEEDED to hear your message TODAY!

You inspire me.

Many thanks!

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LOPEYP 9/11/2013 8:57AM

    When I read your blog what came to mind first was - this girl must really want it because she hasn't given up. I think that sometimes we look so far into the future that we forget to look back to see how far we have come. You are doing awesome!!

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JOANNHUNT 9/10/2013 6:02PM

    I HEAR YOU LOUD AND CLEAR. I HAVE BEEN ON THIS YO-YO RIDE FOR OVER 591 DAYS. I STARTED OUT AT 256 LBS. AND WENT DOWN TO 227 LBS. AND BACK UP TO 240+ LBS AND AM NOW 234.6 LBS. I AM LOOSING FOR ME TO BE HEALTHIER AND TO FIT INTO MY WEDDING DRESS TO GET MARRIED TO A MAN I WAITED 45 YEARS FOR TO BE IN MY LIFE. HE TOLD ME HE WOULD MARRY ME IN A POTATO SACK. I HAVE MY DRESS BUT PUT ON TOO MUCH FOR IT TO FIT BECAUSE I LET THE STRESS OF A CUSTODY BATTLE BETWEEN MY DAUGHTERS AND 2 OF MY GRANDCHILDREN GET TO ME. IT IS STILL HERE BUT I NEED TO STOP LETTING IT OVERPOWER ME. I NEED TO BE STRONGER THAN I AM RIGHT NOW. I AM GOING TO GET THERE AS I WILL NOT GIVE UP. I NEED TO LOVE ME MORE. OH YA!

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SUSIEMT 9/10/2013 5:31PM

    Steph this is one of the better blogs I have seen in a long time! I so believe in consistency and when you can't be consistent pick yourself up as soon as you can! Stick with it. We all stumble from time to time! If I was consistent I would have been at my goal weight and below it by now! That OKAY! I am on PLAN more than not and it will one day happen that I am below my goal! I know It! I weigh everyday and am never discouraged because of the fluxuation! Because it is only TEMPORARY! Unless you can handle the truth don't weigh! Once you get it that that weight is just a temporary thing and subject to fluctuation I think you (everyone) will become more comfortable with weighing once a day so they can learn to make adjustments as needed.
Steph keep up the great job you are doing and again a wonderful blog!

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MONTREAL12 9/10/2013 5:08PM

  You're so right! I've been guilty of exactly that; your ideas are timely and valuable for me; it seems like I've plateaued and can't seem to get going. emoticon

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DIANNEMT 9/10/2013 4:57PM

    It is a lifestyle change--not a diet. And you know that!! So it does take time!!

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JSEATTLE 9/10/2013 3:26PM

  I believe in slow weight loss, it works for me.

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MRSRIGS1 9/10/2013 2:44PM

    GREAT blog and very inspirational - THANK YOU!

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  What great advice from "One Who Has Been There." emoticon

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NONNAOF2 9/10/2013 12:59PM

  You understand what happens on a journey, our roads always seem to have ups and downs on our way to the end! Loved your blog! :-)

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HEATHERFREE 9/10/2013 12:43PM

    love this blog! IT is so inspirational, I def do my best when I hide the scale, concentrate on WHAT I'm doing rather than how much I'm losing and how fast I'm losing it......

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ROCKYCPA 9/10/2013 11:59AM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing!

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JAIMESIZED 9/10/2013 11:51AM

    Thank you for your blog. It was nice to know that I'm not the ONLY one that goes through plateau's and gains (even though I know that everyone goes through it). It's always a nice reminder to know that it all adds up. Congratulations on your weight loss, the patience you have developed, and for keeping your eyes on the prize!

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TRAILBLAZER6 9/10/2013 11:09AM

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The first part of your blog sounds so much like me. I have been doing the numbers game. It isn't working for me either. I needed this badly.

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LCRUMLEY81 9/10/2013 10:53AM

  Wonderful blog

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GOOSIEMOON 9/10/2013 9:02AM

    Thanks for this! I really needed to see this right now.
I've had a similar journey and am right now in the process of coming back strong!

Let's do this! TOGETHER!

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NEWMOM20121 9/10/2013 9:00AM

    Wonderful blog.

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ARTSYGIRL5 9/10/2013 8:57AM

    Great Blog !!!

What a good way to look at it.

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CERTHIA 9/10/2013 8:09AM

    Very motivating! I am so glad I read this today as I just found out I have gained, well, or rather that I am heavier than I realized.. Or, oh well, I might write a blog about it tomorrow. Right now I am still digesting the news and figuring things out. I will not give up, but consider this a detour! :)
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PIXIE-LICIOUS 9/10/2013 7:47AM

    Great blog....thank you!

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IDICEM 9/10/2013 7:40AM

  I love it when people keep it real. Thanks!

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SHERYLP461 9/10/2013 6:59AM

    Thanks for sharing your downs and ups...so many don't realize there will be ups. I am having one of these times right now. It is good to see how well you have overcome yours.

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MIMIDOT 9/10/2013 6:57AM

    Good advice!! Thanks for sharing.

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PENOWOK 9/10/2013 6:38AM

    You are so right. Those bumps in the road mean little if you are getting back on track, as you have done!! We are all so proud of you!

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WATERDIAMONDS 9/10/2013 6:35AM

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. Someday I'll be able to explain to you just how much this blog means to me, but in the meantime...thank you.

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