Saturday, September 07, 2013
I've always wondered, when hearing how so many people have success with weight loss goals when they have an accountability partner/buddy, how people actually get/find the right partner. I've also wondered how people actually succeed with their weight loss goals when having one.
People always tell me that it helps to have a buddy to work out with, to encourage each other, share struggles & progress with, and so on. Either that's a huge load or I have really crappy non-supportive people in my life.
For a few years now, off and on I've tried to have a workout/accountability buddy. I've wanted to see if it's true. I've come to find out that with the so called buddy's I've had around me that they're flakes and users. They've drained me of all my time, support, and encouragement (while getting no support/help back ... AND while they're making me feel like I am bugging them or wasting their time. I've needed help with certain struggles too. Sheesh. ANYWAY). I always ended up helping them lose tons of pounds and I've either gained or have stayed the same. OR.... after we commit to helping each other, I just never hear from them again about weight anything and they ignore my calls and texts. As if we never committed to helping one another.
I'm not at all trying to blame my so called accountability buddies on my weight issues. Totally all me and my struggles/issues that I'm slowly getting passed and overcoming. But, it stinks that no matter what...I'm always the one helping and giving everything I have to everyone (or in this case: to an accountability buddy of whom only claimed they would commit to helping each other reach our goals) and I'm left with my drained self trying to reach my goals/get passed struggles alone again. Where are the great buddies I hear about? ha ha ha I want a two sided support system ... not the one sided I've experienced.
I believe I am strong enough to do it alone, so far I have been overcoming a lot alone. ... But, I know it's also nice to not have to face EVERYTHING alone. And with continually hearing what everyone says about their buddies succeeding together, it's made me curious to experience a working physical buddy system of support too. Like I said, I've been testing that out on and off for years, and so far, I haven't had good experiences. If buddies makes the journey easier and more helpful knowing you're not alone, I'd like to try it and succeed too. For once I'd like it to be where BOTH sides are committed to seeing and helping each other succeed in reaching their goals. As of now ... I have no clue how it's supposed to REALLY work.
Anyway. I would love to hear from people who have succeeded in this. I'd like to know more about it all too.
Thanks so much for stopping by. I'd greatly appreciate any tips. :)