Saturday, September 07, 2013
I've always wondered (when hearing how so many people have success with weight loss goals when they have an accountability partner/buddy) how people actually get/find the right partner and how people actually succeed with weight loss goals when having one. People always tell me that it helps to have a buddy to either work out with and/or get encouragement from, share struggles & progress with; and do all that for/with your buddy too.
Either that's a load or I have really crappy non-supportive people in my life. For years I've tried this on and off. The people either flake, don't truly commit, or drain me of all my time and encouragement (while getting no support/help back ... AND while they're making me feel like I am bugging them/wasting their time when I need help with certain struggles too). I end up helping them lose tons of pounds and I've either gained or have stayed the same. OR....just never hear from them again about weight anything. As if we never committed to helping one another.
I'm not at all trying to blame my so called accountability buddies on my weight issues. Totally all me and my struggles/issues that I'm getting passed. But, it stinks that no matter what...I'm always the one helping and giving everything I have to everyone (or in this case: to an accountability buddy of whom only claimed they would commit, as I did, to helping each other reach our goals) and I'm left with my drained self trying to reach my goals/get passed struggles alone. Where are the great buddies I hear about? ha ha ha I want a two sided support system ... not the one sided I've experienced.
I believe I am strong enough to do it alone, so far I have been ... but with what everyone says, which is why I've been testing that out on and off for years, is that doing that makes the journey easier and more helpful knowing you're not alone. So. For once I'd like to try it, where BOTH sides are committed, to see what people mean. As of now ... I have no clue how it's supposed to REALLY work.
Anyway. I would love to hear from people who have succeeded in this. I'd like to know more about it all too.
Thanks so much for stopping by. I'd greatly appreciate any tips. :)