Here I go again!
Friday, September 06, 2013
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Spark was all whacky and I couldn't view blogs the last few days, but now it works!
I am sorry you are feeling so down, you can turn it around just one step at a time.
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You must have taken the vlog down. Didn't get to see it but by the comments it doesn't look like you're having the best day. You and your husband are both sweeties and I hope tomorrow is a better day. Hang in there.
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Small goals are good - you feel so great once they become habit!
I totally understand the depression that comes with having that f$@#^&g scale error on you! It made me feel like 'maybe this is just how I'm supposed to be.' Then I saw how my mom has so much trouble even just walking now, due to being overweight. I don't want that to happen to me (and I wish I could do something for her.)
I know tracking can be a pain, but how about picking 1 food/drink to track? I don't know if you drink soda, but if you do maybe that? I was amazed at the amount of weight I lost when I cut down, then cut out, soda. Just a thought.
Hang in there!!
1326 days ago
Wow! Not sure where to start and there are tears in my eyes. You are such a pretty girl and I'm sorry to see you so sad. Just some thoughts...
1. Are you just feeling down, or could you really be clinically depressed? Think about it and if it could be the case try to get medical advice.
2. Losing 200 or more pounds is a serious undertaking, and if, you are like me, it seems as if it will take decades. It won't. Remember that. You are not alone. Many of us care.
3. As for your birthday, Happy Birthday! I know what you mean about the "freebies" although, I don't think I've ever actually done it. Still, go for it. I know that may not be great advice in the long term, but no life changing event was ever mastered in a week or two. The thing to focus on is, one day of silliness is not what got you to where you are now and it won't be the cause of your undoing in the future either. In my opinion, every one gets a "pass" once in a while. We aren't perfect, we're human. The trick is, ONCE in a while. Somewhere, maybe here, I read or heard beware of saying, "oh just for today, after all it's Thanksgiving", or whatever. Then the information pointed out, that there are usually one or two important days every month and 24 splurges a year add up. Also, part of this whole deal is changing life long habits and ways of thinking. I chose my holiday years ago. Christmas is when I give my self 'permission'. But, you know what, once you get in a new pattern, even on Christmas or your birthday or whatever, you won't be able to eat what you could in the past.
4. I'm not some skinny person who gives advice they don't personally need to follow so I will be on the journey with you. I want to lose nearly 100 lbs. I am 68 years old and for me the big challenge is exercise because I have some medical issues. I love to dance and I love music so I made a playlist for my smartphone and I do low (and I do mean low) impact aerobics to 3 or 4 songs about2-3 times a day. I try to make each session about 10 min. If, and when you can track you will be amazed at how that adds up. It adds about 20% to the daily calories I'm allowed. I don't usually use those extra calories, but it's sort of like having a savings account. I could have a piece of your birthday cake and not ruin my long term plans because I have been careful the rest of the week.
5. You really have to be ready to make huge changes. You sound like you want to but are discouraged before you start. I've been there, but I don't think that's where I am now. At the moment, I'm mad (and scared) Let me share little story and then I'll shut up, promise! =) I started back on this path about a week ago. My son, who is in his 20's is morbidly obese. He is 6' 5" , but, he weighs (did weigh) 552.2 lbs. a week ago. I allowed him to have poor eating habits as a child. Admittedly, he did the eating, but I should have been more firm. It's the age old story of loving someone so much you don't want t say no and you don't want to criticize. Anyway, we've been talking and he agreed last week to go to Weight Watchers. This week he lost 6.25 pounds. He's being good about food (well, there was that one day he ate a whole bag of potato chips!) and twice he walked for about 30 min, not fast, and he took rest breaks for a minute or two during the walks, but he did it. He said before we started, "mom, we've done this before and it works, but we don't stick with it". He is absolutely right. But, this time I'm mad. I don't like to be told something can't be done. I'm scared for his health too (as I am for you, I think you verbalized some things that he might feel but won't say because it's not 'manly')
Still, I'm mad and I'm going to reach my goal and help him if I can. I guess what I'm saying is, 'whatever motivates change'.
6. I'm going to subscribe to your blog so maybe we can keep in touch. Don't be ashamed to have small goals. Every journey of 1000 miles really DID begin with one step. Gather up courage to begin tracking. Don't cheat, it's true you're cheating yourself. If you carefully track everything, even. if you don't meet your goals you can see where the mistakes are and work to eliminate them. It's where I realized what a difference my 20 min of exercise makes. I smile sadly when I read about 5km run challenges. I don' think I will ever be able to do that, but, who knows, in 90 lbs. I'll let you know. I do know what I can do though, and I'm doing it. Any of us can only do what we're able to at any given time. Push yourself a little. A person needs to reach out to grow. My personal challenge to you is work on the water thing; it's really important. I'm assuming that you know that things like ice tea etc. count towards your goal, though actual water is better.
Good luck, you can do it. I'll share my favorite quote from vice-pres. Joe Biden. It's actually some advice from his father when something was causing problems in his son's life. He said, ' Remember Joe, it' not how many times they knock you down that counts, it's how many times you get back up'.
Enough of my motherly babble, I wish you the very best. Will and I will be in your cheering section. Alyssa
PS: Irving666 is the cat from guess where but he lets me use his name =)
1327 days ago
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You don´t know me yetbut if you have one 60 yr old friend, you mightas well have 2.
I know what it´s like to fight depression, have mild depression most of my life. At this point my husband has been in a hospital for a year in a coma, and thus I´m just getting back to Spark People, since I´ve gained about 30 lbs during his illness.
Something that is helping me is being with the Spark Coach rutine, and just being determined that I will now take care of myself. I was pretty discouraged at my weight, but just beginning again has helped my mood a lot.
Perhaps your starting with small goals will help your mood also.
Don´t worry about your birthday splurge, it´ll be nothing in the long run. Just be desirous of eating healthfully afterwards as much as you can. That should help your mood also. DON´T beat yourself up!!!
My heart goes out to you.
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