Thursday, September 05, 2013
This last week and a half have been very difficult, yet funny at times and emotional. I have not been on here, because of family issues, mainly my Mom. It is a long story and I hope soon coming to an end and she will get into a good nursing home asap. And get settled.
Mom was diagnosed with dementia about a year and a half ago. Shortly after that she became very paranoid, with medications and time that settled down. So she has been doing well until about 2 weeks ago. Then the paranoia came back with a vengeance. Worse than before. Too many upsets to go on about. Now Mom is in hospital. Waiting placement.
I am going to give her notice to the people where she lived today. I have been trying to reach them. They have been so good to Mom and she has enjoyed living there so much!! However, she can no longer live there because her care needs are higher and her mental status has changed. I am also concerned because I have cousins who are now becoming vultures and one in particular who talks for all of them and tells me who is to get what!!
She also told me that ALL of my Mom's photo's were hers to go through and sort out. I know she will just take them all. She also wants a bowl of my Grandma's that was to go to either my brother or I. So am very frustrated.
Went to see Mom last night. She had a rough couple of days. She has always been very much a lady. Would not swear, raise her voice or cause any kind of disturbance. However, true to how many people with dementia act, opposite of their "normal" pre-dementia personalities, she is verbal aggressive and even struck the nurse with her cane. She feels her food is poisoned and that "they" are going to kill her.
So I am trying to keep calm, keep everyone informed, look out for my Mom and do the best I can. Tomorrow packing will begin. Important stuff will be moved. Things will get done.
I just have to remember to keep spark people on my mind and keep in touch. If it wasn't for a dear spark friend Anjay's-Journey I am not sure I could get through all of this. She and her family have been there for us and me since day 1. She is going with me tomorrow and her husband will help move the stuff!! I am blessed. A miracle happened this morning. My brother who is a man of few words commented on facebook this morning how well I am doing with all of this! I was in tears. So I am off to get a few things done now. I am going to try and keep up.
This is a great website!!! Great people and I do not know where or what I would be like with out it.