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Healthy competition or unhealthy motivation???

Thursday, September 05, 2013

Well, a small dilemma I am faced with. I have a relative that is also on a weight loss kick and has been a fluffy girl about as long as I can remember. Other than social media, I do not see her often but there are pics that are posted and I see how she is really losing some serious weight. I know she had the "surgery" quite a while back so the results have taken quite a while to show. Here nor there, I see the pics and I say (totally to myself) oh no (name) is NOT going to out do me!!! I know it is petty. I know it is even a little downright ugly, but it does help me when I feel that temptation coming on, my mind gravitates to her pics! Green eyed monster? No because I am glad she is losing weight, she needs to for her health. But I just can't bear to think that when I see the one that has always been bigger than me, to now be smaller!
Maybe others have someone like this too???? Or am I the only ugly one! lol


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JESSYJAINES 9/6/2013 3:44PM

    Competition helps us work harder. emoticon

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SHELLS514 9/5/2013 11:15PM

    Healthy a good thing! I totally get where you are coming from and would feel the exact same way! Keep using that picture of her as motivation, hey, whatever works! emoticon emoticon

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PROUDNM1987 9/5/2013 9:26PM

    I think it helps to have a little competition...whether they know they are competing or not!! Lol!! It's all good! emoticon

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FITFRIT 9/5/2013 8:36AM

    I have someone in my life like that too, but she had the surgery like your relative and I didn't so my weight loss is VERY slow and hers has been more rapid...she's lost over 100 lbs in just under a year. hang in there!

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WHYNOTJ1 9/5/2013 8:29AM

    I forgot to say, sometimes we forget that it isn't "them or us" -- that there's plenty of good things to go around for everyone who wants them, so maybe we can let go of some jealous feelings that might be holding us back.

I repeat some daily affirmations and in them sometimes I need to remind myself of things I am choosing to do for myself and steps I am taking to reach my own goals.

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WHYNOTJ1 9/5/2013 8:26AM

    No, you aren't the only one. As long as you use it to motivate yourself, rather than to beat yourself up, I think it is fine.

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    Well, I do it all the time. And I also feel bad about it!. I really never thought I was that competitive until I started trying to lose weight. Unfortunately, for me the competition usually has negative consequences. I start feeling bad about myself, push myself to do too much exercise, become self-critical, and then even start overeating because I have worked myself into a state of being down on myself.

If you can use it as a positive motivation........we'll call it pride in yourself.........without it turning on you, then I would say it is not a bad thing. I'd use whatever motivation I could. Personally, this one just backfires on me!

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SEAJESS 9/5/2013 1:57AM

    Whatever works! I have a bit of a competitive streak myself and as long as it's not totally driving the bus, it can serve me well. I got a little tracker for my steps and I compete against myself every day to see if I can make 10,000 steps. You sound aware and I can't imagine a little competition in the privacy of your mind could hurt you. We all have many different motivations for losing weight; in my opinion, the only way to judge them is "Does this work?"

Enjoy and keep on losing!


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