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Beating myself up for bad choices...and it's fantastic!

Thursday, September 05, 2013

I've heard over and over how you shouldn't beat yourself up for a bad choice that happens once. At some point, that stuck - but not in a good way. I'd make a bad choice and say, "Oh well. Bad choice. No problem." I forgave myself to morbid obesity. I made excuses to the point where I can barely move. I held myself up to no standard at all, and my life goals are almost impossible.

So today. Awful choices. I'm beating myself up miserably - and it's fantastic. I need to feel guilt for eating fast food again when I swore I'd not touch it for a week. I need to feel ashamed for missing a workout when I'm still trying to up exercise frequency.

Ugh. I did horrible today. I can't forgive myself when forgiveness is going to mean my life goals are impossible.
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  • v FIFIFRIZZLE
    Good point. If shame is what motivates you. I find that praising myself and encouragement work best for me.
    I used to have problems with accountability, maybe I still do, but I have got rid a lot of weight and turned my exercise habits around essentially by getting down to business. I have put my health first, scheduled exercise sessions as unbreakable dates, and got a serious hold of my eating.
    My life is now full of positive momentum.
    I don't allow anyone to beat me up, and if I have a bad feeling, I deal with it without turning to food, unless I decide food will do the business that time.

    I feel great, and I want more of that great feeling.
    You can have this too, just make up your mind, make a plan, apply the plan. Every day will get easier.
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    1029 days ago
  • v GYPSYGOTH
    I think much like smoking, you are right; there is no "oh it's ok..." and there is no try. Do or do not do. I mean no one is perfect, so it is too much to expect yourself never to eat another high-calorie meal or "waste" a day reading and not moving.
    ... But it is fairly inexcusable to want to change but take no steps towards it. You have the power. I was seriously obese (not sure about the morbidity line but I was terribly heavy for my height) and it may have taken me years but now I am getting close to "normal" BMI. I want health more than I want chemically enhanced food, no matter how many millions they have spent on smells to make me think otherwise ;)
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    1029 days ago
  • v HARMONYAGAIN
    Being honest with yourself is great, you don't need to lie to yourself to care for yourself emoticon
    1029 days ago
  • v MONTANAWALKER
    You know better, you just need to do better! emoticon
    1029 days ago
  • v LATTELEE
    Think of yourself as you do a car...you put the correct grade of gas in it whenever it is necessary, do the same for yourself!
    1029 days ago
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