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Beating myself up for bad choices...and it's fantastic!

Thursday, September 05, 2013

I've heard over and over how you shouldn't beat yourself up for a bad choice that happens once. At some point, that stuck - but not in a good way. I'd make a bad choice and say, "Oh well. Bad choice. No problem." I forgave myself to morbid obesity. I made excuses to the point where I can barely move. I held myself up to no standard at all, and my life goals are almost impossible.

So today. Awful choices. I'm beating myself up miserably - and it's fantastic. I need to feel guilt for eating fast food again when I swore I'd not touch it for a week. I need to feel ashamed for missing a workout when I'm still trying to up exercise frequency.

Ugh. I did horrible today. I can't forgive myself when forgiveness is going to mean my life goals are impossible.
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    Good point. If shame is what motivates you. I find that praising myself and encouragement work best for me.
    I used to have problems with accountability, maybe I still do, but I have got rid a lot of weight and turned my exercise habits around essentially by getting down to business. I have put my health first, scheduled exercise sessions as unbreakable dates, and got a serious hold of my eating.
    My life is now full of positive momentum.
    I don't allow anyone to beat me up, and if I have a bad feeling, I deal with it without turning to food, unless I decide food will do the business that time.

    I feel great, and I want more of that great feeling.
    You can have this too, just make up your mind, make a plan, apply the plan. Every day will get easier.
    1655 days ago
    I think much like smoking, you are right; there is no "oh it's ok..." and there is no try. Do or do not do. I mean no one is perfect, so it is too much to expect yourself never to eat another high-calorie meal or "waste" a day reading and not moving.
    ... But it is fairly inexcusable to want to change but take no steps towards it. You have the power. I was seriously obese (not sure about the morbidity line but I was terribly heavy for my height) and it may have taken me years but now I am getting close to "normal" BMI. I want health more than I want chemically enhanced food, no matter how many millions they have spent on smells to make me think otherwise ;)
    1655 days ago
    Being honest with yourself is great, you don't need to lie to yourself to care for yourself emoticon
    1656 days ago
    You know better, you just need to do better! emoticon
    1656 days ago
    Think of yourself as you do a put the correct grade of gas in it whenever it is necessary, do the same for yourself!
    1656 days ago
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