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A new frustration for this care giver

Monday, September 02, 2013

Hubby has a new motorized wheelchair. The controls are a little different. He has always had a hard time accepting change. He is continually calling me to help him. I have patiently explained the new control about 100 times. I am starting to lose patience! chris
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    Sending hugs, I know this is so hard and frustrating for you. Hopefully your DH will catch on soon and won't be so dependent on you.

    1586 days ago
  • SAMI199
    1586 days ago
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    You have gotten some great advice so I will only add my prayers that your hubby will master the new controls soon. emoticon

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    1602 days ago
    Have you tried telling him to just try and tuning him out for 10 or 15 minutes? Maybe giving him the time to look at it and try to figure it out will get him to learn it. Indulging in his want to not have to change will only enforce his belief that he shouldn't have to change.
    1603 days ago
  • LIS193
    1603 days ago
    It's got to be really difficult, Chris. I hope he learns to use the controls soon. Must be frustrating for him too.
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    1603 days ago
    I KNOW what you mean. "CHANGE" is NOT OUR FRIEND! (" I " don't like "change" either) LOL It is VERY difficult & CONFUSING for the person who NEEDS HELP; & it can be EQUALLY FRUSTRATING for the care giver! Even a SMALL change can throw the person who needs care into a TAIL SPIN!
    I HOPE he gets used to the new chair soon!
    1603 days ago
    emoticon Can you make up a little song or rhyme to help him get it?
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    Comment edited on: 9/2/2013 9:38:33 PM
    So sorry Chris, I get your frustration, I hope he gets it soon before you hit your limit!


    1603 days ago
    My prayers go with you.
    1603 days ago
    I understand what you're going thru. It's hard to have patience day after day. Last week I was so disgusted that hubby wouldn't do a thing for himself, even simple things. Then I found out he was so sick and as he got better, he did more. I keep thinking, life is still good as long as I have him with me. I pray for patience for all of us caregivers!
    1603 days ago
    Best wishes to you. I hope he adjusts to the change and learns to use the new chair. emoticon
    1603 days ago
    Sorry, it's got to be hard but count backwards and remember the Serenity Prayer! emoticon emoticon
    1603 days ago
    CHRIS I hear your frustration and I know it must be hard for you. Is there some way you can break down the steps to getting it done so he might remember how to do it.

    I wish the companies designing these devices would try to not change too many steps for people who need to use them. They should just keep it simple whenever possible. It is too bad they do not understand change. The Designer might get a lift from his design but they should be able to recognize the difficulty for those who have to relearn the way to do it when they make changes..
    Sorry for your frustration, I hope he learns it soon.
    HUGS to both of you Pat in Maine. Here for you any time, emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1603 days ago
  • SBECKER526
    I liked this blog. I too have a hubby that constantly wants my help. I'm learning to respond a little more slowly. He has bee solving a few of his problems by the time I get there.

    I hope the new chair works out. My prayers are with both of you. Sandy
    1603 days ago
  • FROSTY99
    Maybe if you don't rush to help him he will try to figure it out. Sometimes we as caregivers try to do everything for our loved ones and it really doesn't help them. One of the therapists told me to let my DH struggle a bit-didn't seem right but it did make him more independent. Not sure in your situation that that would work but....it is a suggestion. I do understand how frustrating it all can be.
    1603 days ago
    You are in my thoughts and prayers as you weather this storm. I've been with sob's family for a week and taking care of their little ones a few days. Later this week I'm heading down to my mom's house to care for and do a list of things for her. She is so miserable at this point, but still insists on living alone in her home of more than 60 years. She is 99. I prat for her to have some relief, comfort and peace before the end.
    1603 days ago
    Oh Chris, I'm so sorry about the change; even tho' when hubby 'gets' it, he'll be more mobile without your help. I hope he catches on soon - you deserve every little break you can get.

    1603 days ago
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