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How to Keep From Starting Over

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Monday, September 02, 2013

(I just posted these thoughts in response to another member on the message boards, and I want to remember them for myself. Maybe they'll be useful to someone else, too.)

Consider all the setbacks part of one journey. Then, when you encounter them, you don't see them as an end or a failure, just a rough patch. Remember that what matters is that you keep going, no matter how many times you've faltered, fallen down, gained some weight back, gained it all back, etc. We've all done those things. We've all had those moments and months. That's life. Just keep going.

It helps me to look for what I can learn from the setbacks and stumbling points. What was going on for me that I fell down, and what can I adjust to take better care of myself?

Planning is a good tool to prevent setbacks. So is compassion for yourself. Be kind to yourself when you have a slip. See it as part of a total picture of progress, rather than a failure. Don't throw out a dozen eggs because you drop one on the floor, if you follow me. Just clean up the mess as best you can, and continue cooking.

Fall down 100 times, get up 101 and you're a success.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CATNCAG 9/29/2014 12:23PM

    emoticon blog! emoticon for the inspiration!

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UNIQQUE98 7/5/2014 9:17AM

  awesome!!! Needed to read this

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LORIVIOLA 3/15/2014 9:22AM

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KAYEMERALD 11/3/2013 1:18PM

  I feel like I've been working on the same 10 pounds for most of my life! I have weighed more at times and weighed less at other times! I find that if I keep trying to add fitness and nutrition to my page, I can stay focused on healthier choices! Don't give up! Keep trying!

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DRTOVAH 11/1/2013 9:32PM

  great advice!

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1GROVES2 10/28/2013 11:23AM

    Thank You! This has been very encouraging! I am so glad you were voted most popular, otherwise I`d not read this.

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HALLMANJ36 10/16/2013 9:01AM

  This is great advice and very encouraging. Thanks, I really needed to here it.

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FERCHY 10/3/2013 10:53AM

  This came at right time for me. I am struggling right now. I will reread until my emotions are once again in control. emoticon

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WINNIE-POOH 10/2/2013 11:09PM

    I have gained just about all my weight back, but I keep trying.

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LEANMEAN2 10/1/2013 6:50AM

    Good one! Thanks for sharing.

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PAMPEEKEMD 9/30/2013 7:18PM

  Great blog -- I've shared with readers and patients to remind them of that 101st time!

One way to look at creating a healthy lifestyle is that it takes a great deal of time, adjustment and GROWING UP. A problem you can't handle without excess food today maybe one, if you stop and study the circumstances and come up with alternative ways of coping, that won't stump you next time. It's a good idea to begin a catalog of alternative coping strategies that you can refer to when you're under the worst of stress.

You can also practice the fine art of adapt and adjust. Imagine easy scenarios: your cable goes out when you want to watch a favorite TV show or the grocery store doesn't have an ingredient you rely on; the item you ordered doesn't fit right or look the way it did in a catalog; it rains instead of being fair weather. How can you adapt and adjust to these imagined small problems? When you get comfortable with the exercise, move on to more frightening ones.

A healthy lifestyle is a journey not a script. What is healthy for you now may not be in a year or twenty years. I tell my patients and readers NOT to look at "starting over" but at picking up where they left off after due consideration of what made them detour. It's even possible that we aren't ready for some life events without breaking our lifestyle rules. The point is to never lose hope, never lose intention and to learn from experience. (And lose the word "mistakes" in the last word of that last sentence!)

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GOSPELCLOWN 9/30/2013 11:07AM

    It's time I took control and did the work!

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WHITEANGEL4 9/30/2013 11:00AM

    An inspiring blog....we all are going on our journey and we should remember your words when we get discouraged

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JAIMESIZED 9/30/2013 8:53AM

    I definitely NEEDED these words of wisdom today. Thank you!

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MRSKATEDUVALL 9/29/2013 9:03PM

    I love the part about compassion towards one self.

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LEEW0LF 9/29/2013 12:33AM

  well said. good motto.

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MAYBER 9/28/2013 11:14PM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Am at the point where quitting is an option
Have slipped a lot this year and cannot seem to get back on track
There is more red than black in my TOPS weight chart
Am taking one day at a time
Love Prayers Peace

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TIMEHASCOME56 9/28/2013 9:22AM

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MAGGSPIE 9/28/2013 9:19AM

    Oh I love this. And I totally agree. This concept is, in my opinion, the biggest part of losing weight. I had never been successful until I started forgiving myself and moving on. I had a really rough day yesterday and so I allowed myself to eat horribly for that day. Because I honestly just needed a break from my diet. And while I feel a little slower for eating all that bad food, it was GREAT because it was not filled with regret. I knew I would limit myself and move on to eating well after that one day.

One day will not make a difference in your weight loss journey. It is what you chose to do with the next days that will.

Thanks so much for posting!

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CELSAANDCHIPS 9/28/2013 1:46AM

    This is a great blog! I'm going to start again for the last time! Thank you for the encouragement!

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LOVEXAVIE 9/27/2013 1:22PM

  I love this! You have blessed so many people with this post - from newbies to veterans. Great stuff!

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CHERYLSBUTT 9/27/2013 12:27PM

    No matter what the mission I just keep moving!
It is my weight loss and fitness story.
thanks for the encouragement!

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LAKEGIRL4 9/27/2013 11:08AM

    Great blog! Its not at all like I thought... The "all or nothing" approach. It took me a long time to figure it out... Take it one day at a time and one step at a time. emoticon emoticon

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MENNATAHA 9/27/2013 10:56AM

  Spark on !!

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JCHICA12 9/27/2013 9:59AM

    Thanks! I needed this today!

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LEESA-B 9/27/2013 9:41AM

    Great reminder. Thanks!

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KALAWA 9/27/2013 8:10AM

  Thank you I needed this today, I have been having such a hard time and today was the hardest of all. Thank you

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SIZE8NOTSOMUCH 9/27/2013 8:04AM

    Thank you for the GREAT words of wisdom!

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4URYOU 9/27/2013 7:54AM

    God Bless your I needed this and it was posted on my fathers birthday too ! emoticon

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MAWMAW101 9/27/2013 7:37AM

    Thank you for the reminder to just keep going!
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WHYNOTJ1 9/27/2013 7:26AM

    Thank you. I am trying to undo a lifetime of yo-yo-ing and keep going until I succeed.

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JIBBIE49 9/27/2013 12:18AM

    Week of 09/26/2013 - Featured Blog Post

How to Keep from Starting Over


Wonderful to see your blog featured in the Spark mail. What a role model you are. emoticon

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YICHE12 9/26/2013 10:12PM

    Very well said! Thank you.

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FITANDHEALTHY67 9/26/2013 10:03PM

  Great blog! Thanks for the advice.

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FITFRIT 9/26/2013 9:38PM

    YES! We must NEVER stop getting up!

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BABS4625 9/26/2013 8:39PM


Great Blog! Thank you! emoticon

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    This was AWESOME for me to ready today! I ♥ this post! Bravo to you for sharing and truly motivating people with some simple ways of thinking about our struggle!! We all struggle... and will continue to do so! But the important thing is .... we keep getting back on the wagon! emoticon

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TREV1964 9/26/2013 8:21PM

    Your blog is so spot on. It has the same message as my last blog that contains my newlty composed poem "SPARKWORLD" where I refer to doing this like building a wall a brick at a time.

You have here a highly inspirational blog which was a joy to read - well done.



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JAMER123 9/26/2013 8:21PM

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Great blog that is an inspiration to others!!

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GINA180847 9/26/2013 8:02PM

    Planning, planning and more planning. It has taken a lot of work just to get all the planning done but once I had it all in place life is so doable. Thank you for reiterating this.

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LSIG14 9/26/2013 7:15PM

    Really needed to read this today. I keep starting over and then feel guilty because I've fallen again - instead of seeing the positive (at least I can still get up again!). I'm back on track again although it's slow going. Thanks for the encouragement!

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CORKYCORAL 9/26/2013 6:37PM

  Way to go always got up and begin again With Christ we can have H s strenght to help us up emoticon emoticon

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TOKIEMOON 9/26/2013 6:29PM

    Trying to work out snafus is always easier than throwing in the towel and waiting for "the right time to do it right".

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