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Staying Positive and 3 Accomplishments


Monday, September 02, 2013

Today's lesson on Spark Coach is to list three recent achievements, and to focus on the positive things we do, rather than dwell on the negative mistakes.

Here are my 3:

1. i lost 15 lbs this summer, 31 lbs. total this year. WOO HOO!
2. i have exercised almost every day this year. Wow!
3. I started a new hobby I am excited about (painting rocks) Yey for rocks!

I know it's totally a cliche, but for me, it is very important to remind myself of all of the good things I do when those negative thoughts creep in. And, they DO get in. It seems to be a constant battle, but it is worth the fight. I have felt so much better emotionally since I have made a concerted (forced) effort to remember the positive things. Sometimes I literally shout "NO!" when I start down the dark path.

Example:

"I wish I didn't eat that piece of pie, it had too many calories in it. I am probably over my limit for the day now. I screwed up again. I always eat too much. I'm such a loser. I am never going to change. I am never going to lose weight. I can't deny myself pie the rest of my life. I love desserts, I might as well eat all I want to, and just be happy with that." (eats two more pieces of pie, feels worse)

By the way, I actually think all of these thoughts.

So I shout "NO! STOP!" (sometimes in my head, sometimes aloud) and I counteract with something like:

"One piece of pie (or whatever the perceived mistake) is not going to make me fat or stop me from getting healthier. Even one full day or full week of poor eating is not going to set me all the way back to the beginning. The negative thoughts I have about it are the real problem. Just move forward. Continue to eat and exercise like I have been doing, and I will lose weight. It is not an all or nothing situation. I just have to eat healthy MOST of the time. Everyone who loses weight successfully has these moments, and occasionally eats too much. We all do. We are human, and not perfect. This is really about getting healthy anyway and not just losing weight. I am changing and getting healthy right now by giving myself this talk, so I AM a success."

We can all do this, if we can just talk ourselves into it.




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WORKNPROGRESS49 9/13/2013 2:04PM

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CMFARRELL36 9/3/2013 6:14PM

    Too true. Thanks for sharing.

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KNYAGENYA 9/3/2013 9:01AM

    That is such a great idea! I need to do that. I have negative thoughts creep in all of the time and it really wreaks havoc on my self esteem. You did a wonderful job on your accomplishments and I know you will have many more.

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MICKEYH 9/2/2013 11:54PM

    This is so true. And I can very much relate to these thought. We need to star strong.
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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/2/2013 7:31PM

    You are doing great! Keep it up!

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TWNOMWE 9/2/2013 5:39PM

    Positive thoughts as well talks reinforces our positive actions and you doing an emoticon job
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FELINEBETTER 9/2/2013 3:54PM

    Excellent blog! Wow! Look at your progress! You really have done very well, and at the worst time! Summer is a time with less structure and all sorts of special events happen. You have still managed to take care of yourself very well. And if yelling NO! out loud stops those negative thoughts --- I'm all for it! I try to imagine a hand held up -- like a stop sign -- to catch my negative thoughts. You are really rocking and rolling! Good for you!!! emoticon

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MTRACHEL 9/2/2013 3:45PM

    You are so right! And just taking the time to stop yourself and talk yourself through what you really want allows the impulse to pass. Thanks for the great example!

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WILDKAT781 9/2/2013 2:23PM

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DISCOVERLLH 9/2/2013 12:40PM

    "If I laugh, 'tis that I may not weep" - Lord Byron
Your dialogue with yourself had me laughing, but only because I could SO relate to it! AWESOME blog! emoticon

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WIFE49 9/2/2013 12:16PM

    Wonderful idea. emoticon

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EXPECTSMIRACLES 9/2/2013 12:00PM

    What a great idea!

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