Monday, September 02, 2013
My crazy family started when I got married 40 years ago. 5 years later, drama stepped in when my brother in law got married. He stayed married 15 years, was single again 3 years and then married again. His ex was a nutrition nut. She tried forcing that on everyone else with a superior attitude of how to live your life. Coming from Italian families, the rest of us were all hefty people, she was not Italian or hefty.
Together they had 4 beautiful children that turned out normal despite everything they went thru. The ex left when their youngest was only 6. My BIL raised them to be fine adults.
Fast forward to present day. Now that the kids are having kids of their own, the ex is back in their lives. I understand, she is still their mother. Yesterday, she announced she has cancer. Tumors on her spine and in her lungs. Her youngest daughter didn't believe her so she called the Dr and yes it's true. Already she lost the use of one leg and is in terrible pain. She had moved out of state and remarried. Now she wants to come back to be with her kids. All of a sudden, they are more important to her than her husband.
I was surprised at how much her situation affected me, how bad I felt for her. She is a year younger than me, fit as a fiddle and did all the right things health wise. Not like me who weight yo yoed and abused my body with tons of bad foods. Cancer shows no mercy. When your number is up, something will come along regardless of what you do. This brought me back to earth about how fleeting life is and how we should savor every minute. Every so often something happens to jar me into reality and makes me appreciate what I have. This time hit me hard. My prayers are with her and I hope she doesn't suffer a lot.