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I CAIN'T SAY NO AND I NEED TO LEARN HOW!!

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Yesterday I missed something very important to me and I am so angry with myself. It has nothing to do with food, but a commitment to myself and my BLC22 team the Spies. I let them and myself down.

Between volunteering in our Kiwanis food booth for 14 hours over 2 days cooking, driving a friend to 240 miles round trip in Monday, working Tuesday & Wednesday all day, I was completely wiped. Plus taking MIL to the doctor's on Wednesday AM. I had one commitment to myself and I blew it. I am also worried about my health. I am an epileptic and lack of sleep is one of my main triggers for a seizure - which I am proud to say I haven't had in over 6 years.

My team captain has every right to be upset. I let my team down,

I really need to learn how to say NO. To remember to put my health before the needs of others. This will be a difficult but necessary thing for not only my physical health, but my mental well-being. Here is my plan:

1. My health comes first. Make a weekly plan for exercising and also meal planning. That seems to have slipped as well. These are a must.
2. Make sure that I have allotted enough time in my weekly plan for any challenge tasks to ensure they are completed.
3. Limit the number of volunteer activities to 2 per week. No excuses. I am not the only member of my Kiwanis club or the food pantry that I volunteer at. If they don't understand, then it is their problem and mine. I come first.

Three simple (or maybe not) steps I need to follow through for my own well being. And the respect of those how count me to be at my best.
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MANDELOVICH 8/31/2013 4:05AM

    You are right that learning to say no is crucial. You will burn out and hurt yourself otherwise. You are amazing but you have to take care!!

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NEWCHINELO 8/30/2013 5:12PM

    my sister who has lost a lot of weight,once told me that one has to be SELFISH to achieve weight loss . . . and i do say NO when the need arises!

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SANDLADY48 8/30/2013 2:22PM

    Now...follow through on that plan. Reach out for help to do so.


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MICHIGANLORI 8/30/2013 7:57AM

    I worked hard the past 2.5 years to make myself a priority. It's a mind shift and it can be difficult at times. If I didn't, I would be 55+ pounds heavier and on cholesterol medication. My cholesterol level is below average risk for heart disease. Isn't not only making yourself a priority but a huge part is planning for me. My entire family now understands how important my health is and they support me. I said NO yesterday to going out to eat so my husband and daughter went together and had the best time.

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BRENJET 8/30/2013 7:42AM

    I did a BLC challenge last fall and I loved it....I made huge gains with my weight loss and fitness. I made great spark friends, and learned some important lifestyle changes that I still use. However, the commitment is so important and I too found that the stress of posting and being accountable added to the stress of my everyday life. I would stay up an hour later than I normally would just to meet the expectations of the team. If someone has the time to do the posting-- it is TOTALLY worth it...but if it interferes with your health, time, or well being, it's not for you!

So glad you are choosing to take care of you!!

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KANOE10 8/30/2013 7:34AM

    Taking care of you is so important. I like your three steps. I know you can do it.

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GRAMMAMARY 8/30/2013 7:26AM

    This is also something I have been working on also. I'm getting better at it but still have a long way to go. emoticon

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LUCYLU22 8/29/2013 11:41PM

    emoticon It is definitely time to take care of YOU! You are very right, if they don't understand then it truly is their problem and not yours! I, too, have trouble saying NO, but I have learned that if I don't, I get way over my head with too much going on. I have learned for my own sanity that I just NEED to say NO sometimes. BEST wishes in working out the BEST way to say NO for YOU!

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FITAT50 8/29/2013 10:57PM

    Saying "no" is very hard. Staying healthy is even more important for you than the majority of people. Let your charities know now that you can only volunteer xx amount of time from now on. No one is looking out for you except you.

Planning ahead and setting reminders can make life less stressful for you and your Captain
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68ANNE 8/29/2013 10:55PM

    Saying no is not bad. You can do it!

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ITS_MY_TURN_NOW 8/29/2013 10:46PM

    You can do it, MaryAnn.
Time to take care of you.
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