Thursday, August 29, 2013
I am often accused of being a happy person, and I love that. Just the other day, the relatively new employee at my office invited me to lunch because I always seem so positive to her. I haven't learned to love this new employee yet, but I appreciate her for the skills she brings to a challenging job, and I am excited to get to know her better.
Enter this article about happiness that SparkPeople put on the start page today: http://www.sparkpeople.com/res
I read it, all several pages of it, and I loved it! I was a Sociology and Drama double major in college, so studies that highlight Sociology like this one hold my interest well.
I can't definitively say that my positivity is self-imposed, but I like to think that it is. I heard a sermon once, and the speaker told the story of a young girl, less than 10 years old, who was studying performance and quite successful at it. She had been in the spotlight for all of her conscious life, and knew that people had expectations of her - that she would be a brat, entitled, silly, under-educated by her home-school background, antisocial, one trick pony, etc. To combat this, she would bravely put on a happy face every day before going to face her next audition, interview, or performance, and defy all these expectations. Whenever she was asked how she was doing, no matter the circumstances, she answered, "I'm terrific!" with such enthusiasm that you had to believe it.
This little girl didn't "make it big" as you might expect. She didn't become Beyoncé or anything. She did, however, frame her life in such a positive light that I remember her story.
In my adult life, I find that more and more often, people respond to the question, "How are you?" with either a nonchalant "I'm ok." or a litany of the things that are going wrong for them. Whatever happened to putting on a brave face and telling someone you're "very well, thank you! How are you?" After all, telling someone all the things that are wrong isn't helping them. It isn't helping anyone, really. It just perpetuates a bad mood.
I think it is time for me to start answering folks, and truthfully so, "I'm Terrific!" Even on days that I don't feel it, if I say it is so, others will treat me like I am, and that will make me, well, terrific!