Demeaning men - not what you might expect.
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
I'm not sure if this will get censored or not. It's not meant to be rude, or offensive, but I just need somewhere to get this off my chest, and Facebook is probably not the place, seeing as my partner, daughter and friends are on there too.
It's about peeing. Specifically, about the fact that men find it demeaning to sit to pee like women do. So what does that say about how they see us? It's demeaning Because it's the way that women do it. That's all. Even gay men pee standing up, so there's even some solidarity there between homophobes and gay men. But pee like a girl? Unthinkable, unless there's a medical reason I suppose, and even then, they'd probably feel shamed and humiliated the whole time they had to do it that way.
I realise that I'm getting all het up about something so trivial most people have never even thought about it. It comes about because of my job, because of having to clean up after men who piss on the floor because they can't always aim at a urinal, or even something as large as a toilet bowl, properly. They say that it is just how it is, and it's pretty much inevitable. As is, apparently, the inability to clear it up afterwards, as if it's inevitability means it's okay to just leave it for someone else to deal with. And I was talking about this with my partner this evening and when I said 'because it's demeaning to sit like we do' , he said 'damn right'. And so now, I just want to scream, I want to roar at him What Does That Make Us? Meaning women. So many men talk about equal rights for women, how Right On they are, with us Sisters, and yet this is what they think. (I won't go into the prostate exam issue here, but that's another one that gets me furious). I don't know what to do right now, I want to go out, start running to burn off the fury. Sorry if this has offended anyone, I don't really expect anyone to read it anyway. Just needed somewhere to vent.